Why are older women falling on younger guys for fulfillment of their desires ?

Why are older women falling on Younger guys for fulfillment of their desires ? Somehow they are often not sexually attracted to their husbands, desire is temporarily rekindled when they suspect their husbands are unfaithful, are contemplating infidelity, or when their husbands show signs of moving on. The vacuum created due to work pressures between them. Sometimes women married for couple of years to the same person have a stronger temptation and they go in for a bit of a change in their lifestyle to experiment their libidos. Life is temporary , so let us give it a try is the motto . Infidelity is no more a sin . Of Course we are seeing from ancient scriptures . The Question is ” Is there something beyond sex and lust ?

10 replies
Siddhartha Shankar Mishra
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Mayank June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I think you also have to understand the other side to this. Younger men dating older women. And it needn’t be for favours or sex, but as genuine connection. It is possible that age is increasingly becoming redundant in relationships. And with the huge exposure the media and internet provides, people of disparate age groups may develop a bond.

Rohini June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

As the previous reply has noted, it could definitely be more than physical intimacy. They could be searching for something emotional as well. Perhaps something their husbands aren’t providing them with. Gender dynamics are changing. Often times, when men go for mistresses, it isn’t only about sex necessarily. As women has become financially independent, they demand more from their partners. Which is not to say infidelity should be excused. Also, for single older women as well, a younger guy brought up in the newer gender dynamics may seem like a better partner than an older man still holding onto entrenched patriarchy.

Jhumur Ghosh June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I think we have missed out on another aspect of this. Older single women, DATING younger single guys. I don’t think it’s just about sex. Older, successful women are more vibrant, more energetic and they like those qualities reflected in the man they are dating. There’s been a shift in what women want as well – today, women also want well-groomed, fit, attractive partners. I am not saying men their age aren’t. It’s just that it’s tougher to find single men in that age bracket. Besides, older men could be more jaded by life – younger men, often, by virtue of the fact that they have had lesser exposure, and thereby, lesser baggage, could come across as more fun. There are older women who want precisely that in a partner – fun, spontaneity and yes, if he’s fitter and attractive, that’s definitely a plus. We don’t bat an eyelid when a Donald Trump marries a Melania. I think women deserve the same freedom.

Rajashree June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

1. Here you are referring only about women. What about men ? Are they not attracted to younger women ? OR Don’t they have affairs beyond marriage
2. Sex is neither a sin or a taboo. It’s more of a physical desire just like any other physical metabolic activities. So let’s not sex and it’s enjoyment be differentiated basis -gender, age, religion, caste, country.
3. Beyond sex and lust , the most important factors are – Friendship, understanding and comfort. They are pre-dominantly the factors that attract people to each other
4. In the age of millennials when we speak about ‘equal pay’; ‘gender parity’ ; then why is a women stringently scrutinized for having an affair beyond marriage or relationship? Are not same rules applicable for men too ? Why are morals and ethical rules different for men.
Then when men are looking for partners for marriage, driven by arranged / love arrangement , they shouldn’t demand that their women be working if they are such ‘narrow minded ‘
5. Attraction is more of a science. You may always love your spouse/ girlfriend / boyfriend . But one can have attraction for others. Not necessary they have to be fulfilling the sexual requirements. It can be intellectual , friendship needs, emotional support.

Guess, it’s time we widen are horizons and don’t keep our perceptions limited. Even Lord Krishna had 16,000+ wives as per scriptures.

Sujata Rajpal June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Of course there is life beyond sex and lust. Women especially older women (don’t know what the definition of old is) look for emotional fulfillment, someone with whom they can connect emotionally than physically. It may sound like conservative thinking but it is true with majority of women even today. And if they don’t find the emotional fulfillment from husband, they look elsewhere. After being married for many years, couples start taking each other for granted, the charm which initially brought them together diminishes after an age. Like everything else, even sex becomes a routine, a chore in their lives. Not many couples feel the need to keep the flames alive after being married for a couple of decades. And when older women get attention from younger guys, the temptation is too tough to resist. Sexual attraction cannot be avoided as it is difficult to segregate the two. Both are interlinked. Sometimes it is to experience everything all over again, she loves it when her heart flutters. It gives her a kick that she can still make men go weak in their knees. And you are right, infidelity is no more a sin. If it is a sin for women, it should be for men too.

Lokesh June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I wonder if morals are relative and keep changing?! Coz if they were then ‘my’ morals can lead me to do a lot of things considered ‘illegal’ and ‘immoral’ by others’ idea of morals. Aren’t morals absolute?! Just a thought!! 🙂

Lokesh June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I am glad Sid someone is at least talking about women’s libido. Our society doesn’t even acknowledge it.
And on one hand I do understand the need to satisfy our biological needs but I also feel feeding to your senses can lead to suffering as well for both men and women. Is there something beyond sex and lust? Umm not sure. But one gotta be mindful of what is one getting into while casually sexing. It usually leads to stress and suffering. It’s more like craving for something sweet and after downing 10 gulab jamuns, one craves for something savory and after downing packets of bhujia, we are back to square one with new cravings, not quite able to satisfy our sense anyway…!! 🙂

I am Krishna June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Read this on Bonobology only! https://www.bonobology.com/expert-speak/experts-on-relationships/380-what-women-want-from-men
Hahaha. Makes sense now Mr. Mishra.

Saheli Mitra June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Oh I know of a lot of my male friends who lost their virginity to what in bengali we call bored boudis.. that is housewives who are bored and needed some wild pleasure and also that sense of power that i am dominating somewhere.. in this case bed.. as in family life they have it the other way round.. and I am speaking of almost two decades back. It was very much there then too… as for now equations have changed. With numerous avenues of exposure frm social media to open dating sites I dont thing age is anymore a hurdle… say I come across a man who looks almost as old as me. Do I ask how old you are. Then many women look younger than their age. Like I do. So many men younger to me do not even understand I am older … so age is no factor at all as long as desire reigns.. for me though love is very imp and personally I would always prefer men older to me

RakshaBharadia June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Interesting Siddhartha. During my research i did find out that in the normal case too sex becomes boring between a couple. Also, we are not really meant for monogamy…so it is a bit of a stretch. But yes, you are right in the end it is about true meaning with another. If we are just looking for fun, maybe fun is fine. But if we are looking for deeper relationship, then? And morality? It changes. 50 years back abortion was considered a sin. Ten years back, pre-marital sex was a sin…

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