Why is it so difficult for the society to look at a Divorcee (esp female) with respect?

Why is it so difficult for the society to look at a Divorcee (esp female) with respect? Why is she considered a curse?

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Neeti Singh
June 7, 2017

8 Comments

  1. "A Curse "Really ? Ohh because she failed to maintain the so called sanctimonous bond of marraige right? May be  she should have treid harder!May be she should have given the husband and bond of marraige more importanc ethan her own self respect! May be she should have just adjusted, just accepted or may be just tried a bit harder! Whole world is happily married  and adjusting – what is such a big deal if the husband beats her sometimes or has an affair.. she should have adjusted..tried harder…Sarcasm intended..*p**p*these are just some  words/thoughts thrown at a typical indian divorced female. its the mindset of making assumptions and judging specially women as they are born  and raised to be nurturer, keeper and to make sacrifices in the name of marraige and "Adjust". Divorce itself is traumatic but this conditioning and bias makes it much harder for indian females. But there is hope and many people have started accepting it as just an unfrotunate event and giving woman the respect without judgeing their marital status..*p*

  2. 'A Curse'? Wow, thats harsh! I hope sections of our society which think like this change soon. But I can vouch for the fact that there are better-minded sections of our society too.*p*

  3. I think those who think that a divorcee is a curse are sick in the mind. Any individual, male or female, has the right to live his/or her life. Circumstances, at times, dictate that a marriage is no longer what it was or ought to be. In such times, it may become necessary to part ways. Unfortunatley, especially in India where the societal norms are quite whacky, women are looked upon as the cause of a divorce. Today, a woman is as educated if not more than the man, earns a handsome salary or runs her own business successfully. The marital staus or otherwise is of no consequense. *p**p*Every human being whether single, married, divorced or widowed has a right to self respect.*p*

  4. First of all she has been divorced by her husband because of some failings of her. Now if it is she says that it is she who has divorced her husband then it is again seen as her failure to keep her husband satisfied. Now if she says that she satisfied her husband and there were other reasons then she is seen to be more demanding.*p**p* *p**p*Great thoughts! (I hope you can sniff sarcasm Sir) Now, I totally get why the society treats divorced women like trash. You exemplified narrow mindedness, judgemental approach and absurdity all in one reply Sir. Thanks*p*

  5. women in India have always been perceived as a kind who are dependent on men for their livelyhood, their emotional, financial, physical and all other needs of life. a divorcee is a rebel. someone who stood up for herself, did not compromise, adjust, or give up and refute that life cannot be lived the way she wishes to live it. people in india picturise a divorcee as a way too strong, independent, arrogant, intolerant woman who couldn't agree to the social norm of how women in India have lived all these years. thus the assumption and preconception about her general character, nature and being. Instead of empathisizng with what situation she must have faced for her to take a step so strong, she is painted as a DIVORCED WOMAN. the word itself becomes self explanatory, her character sketch!*p*

  6. First of all she has been divorced by her husband because of some failings of her. Now if it is she says that it is she who has divorced her husband then it is again seen as her failure to keep her husband satisfied. Now if she says that she satisfied her husband and there were other reasons then she is seen to be more demanding. Basically, a society wants to be happy with status quo and takes the escapist attitude of thinking all is well. It also gives others who are fortunate to have a happy marriage or who have compromised in the said relationship, to flaunt their so-called achievement by looking down upon those who cannot sustain in a marriage. *p*

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