What do people look for in an extramarital affair?
The immediate assumption for most would be some physical component – sex, looks especially for the masculine gender. The saying that women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex has been reinforced through various mediums, but having received over thousands of queries and stories relating to this theme Bonobology has a different take on it.
From our panel of experts- sexologists, marriage therapists, and psychologists we know that more often than not, both men and women actually look for an emotional connection in the extramarital relationship and that it ranks higher than the sex element in it.
Contrary to the popular opinion that people go for the most attractive ‘other’ what we have understood is that people get drawn to those who give them attention and make them feel special.
Here are some interesting thoughts that members shared on our Facebook group ‘Let’s Discuss Infidelity’.
To each his own. What you don’t get inside you seek outside obviously. When it might be a dead bedroom for one, it can always be a caring partner for another.
And I guess in this case gender differences don’t matter much. It actually depends on what he/she is going through currently. Of course there will be people who are serial cheaters. I certainly don’t wish to comment on them!