Question:
Hello Ma’am,
Mine is the strangest story. We have been married for 10 years now and have a 7-year-old child. We live with my in-laws. My husband never goes against his parents. I feel I have no value in the house. We fight almost every day and it shows clearly that he is not interested in me and staying in this marriage only for the sake of it. Long story short, things have got worse now and he as always is not ready to sort it. Please guide.
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Counsellor Snigdha Mishra says:
Hello dear,
This is not a strange situation but an extremely common Indian household issue. From the very limited information that you’ve given me, I’d suggest a conversation with your husband about your current relationship status. Please understand that a marriage is about the two of you. The extended family isn’t your marriage or your relationship. So you need to speak with him about your need to make the relationship function. If speaking with him does not yield positive results you can seek the help of a professional.
Couples therapy/counselling is very helpful in learning ways to cope with pressures from extended family and creating better communication, generating empathy and positive regard between partners.
Wish you the best,
Snigdha
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