I fell in love with my colleague but he asked for a transfer and moved away

Question: Help! I’m in love with my married colleague, but he’s avoiding me.

Answer: From what you say, it’s more an obsession to possess and rejection that is working on you than any love element.

It was a one-sided infatuation which became an obsession. If it were love you would have continued with your life and not turned out dysfunctional.

When someone is friendly and says “You’re pretty” it plainly means only that and doesn’t mean anything beyond that. Maybe your secluded upbringing made you believe that when someone finds you pretty he’s in love with you. It sounds very filmy. Probably you weren’t receiving any other ‘vibes’ than the attention he was giving you.

Related reading: It had all started with innocuous flirting on WhatsApp

On his part it doesn’t look like he encouraged you or was flirting with you. He was being a colleague and among colleagues these kinds of conversations are normal.

You were in love with him and you convinced yourself he was also in love with you. When you found out the truth you felt rejected. But it wasn’t rejection, because there was no acceptance in the first place!



The Best Way To Get Over Rejection Is To Face It

The Lessons I Learnt from My Two Marriages and Two Divorces


Leave a Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

This website uses cookies to ensure you get the best experience on our website.