All relationships don’t always end up happily ever after. Many men face the problem of getting over their ex-girlfriend who cheated on them or dumped them. They feel cheated but at the same time they can’t fall out of love that easily. According to NCB News, “Men take longer to get over their exes and don’t ever get fully over it. Men are more prone to being shocked. The greater the shock of the loss, the longer it takes to recover.” So ask yourself, do you want to remain with the pain and misery that your ex left you in or forget your ex-girlfriend completely and move on.
15 Tips To Forget Your Ex-Girlfriend Completely
So how to forget your ex-girlfriend completely? So much so that you just do not care anymore? It is hard to get over an ex you still love.
No matter how much you show the world that you don’t care about the breakup, deep down you know how painful it is.
Most men go straight into the denial zone where they avoid their feelings and straight away move on. The problem with denial is that it doesn’t make the pain go away. The pain of the heartbreak will still remain and will also affect the next relationship you get into. It’s better to get over with it once and for all rather than carrying that pain along with you. Here are 15 tips that will help you forget your ex-girlfriend who dumped you.
1. Keep Away From Her
“Can we be friends?”
After breaking up, women have the habit of friend-zoning their ex-boyfriend. After a break-up, you can’t go back to being friends again. It’s better to stay away from her instead. No matter how big a role she played in your life, it is better to rip the bandage off once and for all rather than hurting yourself by being around her. Do not agree to be friends with your ex.
2. Avoid places that remind you of her
After break ups, you tend to revisit past memories and think about your relationship. You even tend to go to significant places and remember the moments that you and your ex-girlfriend had in those places. Avoid going to such places as they will just remind you of her and the time you spent there. If you want to forget your ex-girlfriend, you need to stop going down the memory lane.
3. Stay away from the triggers
If you want to forget your ex-girlfriend completely then you need to stay away from the triggers that remind you of your ex-girlfriend who cheated on you or dumped you. Whenever there’s something that reminds you of her or of your relationship, it is a trigger. Identify those triggers and stay away from them. Don’t let these triggers make you revisit your past. It will only make it more difficult to move on.
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4. Social media detox
Go for a social media detox, which here means blocking her account or at least resisting the urge of visiting her profile. Visiting her profile might make you miss her less but that will only be for the time being. In the long-term, all you will become is a crazy stalker. Avoid the urge to visit her social media profile and hit the delete button when it comes to her profile. Stalking your ex is simply a bad idea if you want to forget your ex-girlfriend completely.
5. Tell your friends not to talk about her
If you have a girl best friend, there are chances that she will bring the girl up to make you talk about your feelings. At this moment you don’t need any more reminders of your ex and your main priority should be to get over an ex you still love. Ask your friends not to talk about her.
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6. Find a new crush
To get your ex-girlfriend out of your mind, and refrain from thinking about her, you need to occupy your mind with something else or in this case, someone else. Here, this isn’t about playing with someone else’s feelings. This is about distracting your mind from wandering towards your ex. Follow some new celebrity or influencer on social media and develop a new crush. Crushing on celebrities is harmless and at the same time helps you take your mind off your ex.
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7. Avoid listening to sad/romantic songs
You both might have had a “go-to” song or a favourite song that you two danced on. Mostly after breakups, men start to play those kinds of songs which only make them think about their relationship and breakup even more. If you want to listen to breakup songs, listen to songs that lighten the mood instead of those that push you down towards the heartbreak zone.
8. Avoid being alone
After breakups, people usually prefer to be left alone. It is because they don’t want anyone else to see how vulnerable they have become after the breakup. Not wanting to show your vulnerable side doesn’t mean that you need to be alone for that. Go out with your friend or spend some time with your siblings. You need not talk to them about your relationship. Do fun things with them. It will help in forgetting your ex and focusing your time on people that actually matter.
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9. Avoid calling her
Many times, men can’t resist the urge to drunk dial their ex and it just makes things worse. Calling her isn’t going to change things. She has made her decision and you’ll have to live with it. Talking to your ex will just make things more complicated. Once you call your ex, you will feel like calling her again and again until she pushes you away forever.
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10. Explain the entire story to your friends
Your friends too will have many questions about your breakup and these questions will just keep coming up at awkward timings. It is better to clear the air once and for all. Explain the entire story to your friends and clarify all their doubts once and for all. This will prevent the topic from coming up in future and you will also feel lighter once you get it out of your system.
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11. Keep yourself occupied
It’s not easy to forget someone completely. Forgetting someone isn’t an instant thing one can do. One of the small steps that you can take is to keep yourself busy. Once your mind is occupied in other things, it will help take your ex-girlfriend off your mind. It’s a start towards a more productive single life. After all, ask yourself, do you want to drown in your sorrows or feel good about yourself again?
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12. Don’t think about taking revenge
Thinking about making your ex-girlfriend jealous or taking revenge will only show her that you are still hung on to her and are unable to move on. Don’t let her have that kind of power over you. Doing nothing is the best option. Showing that you’re at peace with the breakup will make her feel restless and not letting her have that kind of power over you will help you get over her.
13. Ask for closure
One of the main reasons why it is difficult to forget your ex is that you’ve not got proper closure. It is very important to get closure after your breakup. Closure helps you understand and realize that there’s no possibility of you and your ex getting back together again. You will understand the events leading to the breakup more clearly. Once you realize that it’s a dead-end, it will help you move on and forget your ex-girlfriend completely.
14. Use your own space
If you’ve asked your friends to give you space after the breakup, use this as an opportunity to clear your head instead of playing your breakup in a loop. Spend some alone time with yourself and confront your feelings. Only you can understand how you feel and be honest with your feelings. Own how you feel instead of running away from it. This will help you sort out your feelings and you will feel lighter.
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15. Try new things
This is the time to think about yourself. Go out with your friends on trips and have new adventures. This time is all about trying new things and having new experiences. It will help you take a break from your boring and routine life and you will feel like a new person.
Breakups aren’t easy for anyone. Especially when someone you loved, dumped you for someone else or cheated on you. Getting over them isn’t something that is easy but it all starts with taking the first step. You can’t forget someone unless you want to. Once you make up your mind that you want to forget her, follow these 15 ways and you’ll get her out of your system. Most importantly, you will heal from the breakup and start focusing on yourself and your close ones more.
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