My girlfriend and I want to marry each other. We have been together for the past three years. Her family is against our intercaste marriage. When she spoke about me to her uncle, he refused straight away. After that, her father also attempted suicide.
Jaseena Backer says:
Hello Young Man,
This is a complicated situation with emotions involved above practicality.
If you love each other, then your girlfriend should be able to stand her ground to support your relationship before her family. Her getting into a marriage by force spoils three lives.
The two of you should take this to both your parents. If her father is threatening suicide, would that make her leave you? Can she live with someone else having loved you? These are the things that you both have to think about. It is easy to succumb to parental pressure. If you both want to marry, then you both have to take the tough route and convince her parents.
Also, remember in this there is an innocent man involved, who is probably clueless about what he is getting into.
If her parents do not agree to your marriage then she needs to buy time with her parents so that there is an alternate plan to live together. Do not get into something that will not make you happy.