Can people who are completely different ever be happy together?
While most of us may not accept the science in astrology, it is only fair to say that it has appropriately analysed the inner core values that humans have and divided them into three major categories: “Devagana” (The Divine), “Manushyagana” (The Human) and “Rakshasagana” (The demon). It is important to understand their traits first and thereafter see if it can applied to matters of love, especially to answer if opposites do really attract and can stay happy together.
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1. Devagana – Divine
People who belong to the “Devagana” or the divine category are peace and nature loving. They have an innate sense of forgiveness and always bless others for their success. Whatever they do in their life is mostly to help others as they empathise with people who are distressed. They’re often very intelligent and have a fair amount of wisdom. They have extremely calm facial expressions and they spread pleasure to the people around them. They have a soft corner for those with disabilities and most deeds they do are selfless.
They have a soft corner for those with disabilities and most deeds they do are selfless.
2. Manushyagana – Human
As the name suggests, these people value their own success more than anyone else’s. They usually have a good lifestyle with all the worldly and materialistic pleasures. They work for themselves, their families and their motivation in life is growth. While they also do charity, unlike the Deva gana people, their deed of charity is not selfless. Typically with an attractive physique, they have well defined facial features. Affection and care for their loved ones is a common trait in such people.
Affection and care for their loved ones is a common trait in such people.
3. Rakshasagana – Demon
Clearly, these people are rigid, stubborn and most qualities in them are negative. They are extremely short tempered, and do not get affected by emotions or the suffering of others. In a very weird way, they draw pleasure out of a disastrous event that someone else experiences. They are usually bulky and oversized and rarely do they care about the effect of their words and/or actions on others.
They are usually bulky and oversized and rarely do they care about the effect of their words and/or actions on others.
It is only obvious that Rakshasagana is attracted to Devagana and Manushyagana, for two demons will never be able to stay together. As for Devagana, they are attracted to Manushyagana, for two divine powers also cannot stay together. And Manushyagana is usually attracted to the aggression of Rakshasagana, for two humans may not find their life together interesting.
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Finding the happiness from within you
If you really introspect, you may be able to fit yourself in one of the ganas. You may also find that your partner may not be necessarily of the same gana as you, and yet you may think that happiness is organic. From some of the couples that I have met in my social surrounding, it has only become more evident that happiness, for each couple, is defined by them alone. They can draw happiness from the little arguments they have, the changes they make to accommodate their partner’s needs and wants and things that they do to please the other. Typically, whenpeople from two opposite ganas are attracted, their sex life is just awesome.
To finally answer the question, yes opposites do attract, but the happiness index is only decided by what the couple decides. As human beings, whichever gana we may belong to, we have the power to make choices. In matters of relationship, happiness is a choice and never incidental.
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” In matters of relationship, happiness is a choice and never incidental. ” – What an eye opener is that! We believe in the concept of ‘opposite attracts ‘ , till someone polar opposite of us ( to whom we feel absolutely drawn to at one point of time) hurts us. Then we hurriedly arrive at the conclusion that ‘opposite attracts’ is a myth. I myself have done that. At the point it hits the rock bottom, it feels like , perhaps the difference are too large to make any room for any sort of intersection. But then, here’s the thing I have realized down the years. We all are individuals with our own concrete tapestry. And there will never be a person who would meant to fit into your frame with neat perfection. No . it never happens. And it’s not supposed to be. People should come into our life not to complete us, but to add to our lives. And that can happen only when you accept the person just the way he/she is . Because, at the end of the day, happiness in relationship is definitely a choice willingly made.