Is our Hindu-Muslim marriage possible?
I am a Muslim girl and I love a Hindu guy for the past one and a half years. I want to get married to him but my parents are pressurizing me to get him converted or else they won’t allow the marriage. On the other hand the guy and his parents are not ready to convert. I can understand their sentiment too. I love him very much and he loves me too but I really don’t know what to do. I have told my parents about Hindu-Muslim marriages that have been successful and have given examples of films like Bombay, where they showed how deep love can be in a Hindu-Muslim marriage, but they are still adamant.
Please can you help? Is our marriage possible?
I am sorry to hear that you are in such a complicated situation. Love indeed doesn’t see borders or religions. There are many people in successful inter-faith marriages but convincing the elders regarding such a marriage is always a battle. A Hindu-Muslim marriage is possible but you have to be very sensible and sensitive in the way you approach it. However, since both your families are adamant about conversion, I suggest that you sit down with your boyfriend and revisit this entire situation logically.
Pressurizing anyone for a conversion will only result in more conflict and resentment. Maybe you two need to sit with the respective families together and make them see your point.
Maybe an arrangement can be made where neither of you live with your families. You can have an independent home for yourselves where no one has to change their religion. A cordial relationship with both families can be maintained and continued and you two can get on with your life as a couple. I hope you will find a way that’s least hurtful.
All the best!