If you are looking for love on an online dating site, having a great profile is a vital thing. Daunting as it might sound, building a profile must be executed well. Keep in mind that the people on the dating site have not met you – they will judge, like and consider you only through your profile. You can be so much more than just a pretty face but the people online won’t know that if your profile is inadequate.
Build a profile to attract your ideal partner, and not for the generic creeps loitering about.
You could give these tips a try to attract your kind of people.
1. Give a glimpse of who you are as a person:
Use adjectives that describe you as a person. Expand on those adjectives. Are you funny? Add a line to prove you are funny. Begin with describing yourself with these adjectives.
If you are an adrenaline junkie, list the things you like doing. Don’t overplay it though, or you will come off as conceited. If you like quiet Sundays with your shot of caffeine, list it. Write about your passions and write them well.
Be honest about what you want. If it is a relationship you are looking for, state it. If you want casual hookups, don’t shy away from typing that out. This part is crucial, for it will only attract people with similar thoughts.
2. Negative is not always sexy:
Your cynicism, snarky attitude and negativity can be entertaining briefly but not for long and it definitely cannot be a reliable tool to help you build yourself up to potential partners. There are a great number of users who list things they don’t like/do. There is nothing constructive in that. If you say “I don’t like Netflix”. Netflix users will stay away but what will you do when a number of Hotstar users knock on your messenger?
So instead of the things you don’t want, write about things you do want. If you say ‘conceited people need not apply’, it makes one wonder how self-important you consider yourself to be.
Keep the tone positive. Attract the right ones who will bring positive vibes.
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3. Who exactly you want to meet:
Remember there are people who will only proceed to the next part of your profile if their interests match with yours. The sorting has already begun.
Let them know what you are looking for. A great profile should speak to the character, not to the characteristics. Avoid listing the hobbies, body type, and education of your ideal partner. Instead of saying ‘should possess a sense of humour’, say ‘I love being around someone with a good sense of humour’, instead of saying ‘having a fit body’ say ‘active’. Focussing on the characteristics may make you sound superficial, or over picky and you do not want that.
4. Show what you are into:
To manage a great dating profile, only words are not enough. Upload photos that you think describe you the best. Are you into making music? A shot with your drum set, or sitar will gratifyingly capture your musical side. But don’t over indulge in them.
If you are a gym buff, a couple of gym selfies will turn most of the people off (there are so many of them out there!). However, a magnificent shot of you doing pull-ups will work wonders though. Again, don’t over-indulge in those gym shots.
The magic of creating a great profile lies in your aesthetic portrayal of who you are, with brief details and pictorial depiction of the things you like.
If you are a foodie, a couple of shots of golgappas won’t do any harm.
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5. Use spellcheck:
Bad grammar and spelling errors are major turn-offs for many out there. You might put a lot of thought into making your profile a good one, but take care not to make any grammatical errors. Errors like this show carelessness and people looking for something serious might believe you are careless enough to have not used a spell check.
Be smart. Use Grammarly to clean up your mistakes.
Now that you have pointers, clean up, jazz up that profile of yours.