Q: I am writing with great pain. I am a married woman. My husband is very loving to me and my 2-year-old child. Due to his work he has to travel. One day I found out that he was having an affair with his college girlfriend. She had been married but it was abusive and ended in divorce. She has a small child. For her emotional and physical needs she called my husband. My husband became her support in every way and a father figure for her child.
He is physically and mentally involved in it. When I asked him, he has no reason. I cried and cried. Even if he comes to me, he might be thinking of his girlfriend. I don’t want to be in a relationship out of compulsion for the sake of our child. The feeling of betrayal makes me suicidal. I attempted suicide once but my parents prevented me. I am a very sensitive and emotionally dependent person. My self-esteem has gone down. I need a clear solution. Should I leave him? What should I do?
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A: I can understand that you are going through a very tough time. Your current state requires you to a consult a psychiatrist at priority. It is important for you to discuss all these issues that you are facing with your husband. If things do not work out, you can try involving your family members like your parents and in-laws, asking them to help you out. Since relationships are very sensitive, it is necessary to look at all aspects of the problem before taking any conclusive decision.