I’ve been married almost 17 years. We have a daughter who turns 12 in March. My husband has been unfaithful thrice that I am aware of. He is not ashamed and says I did not love him. He doesn’t want to make it work, but I feel so attached to him and would like to see some hope. I don’t know what to do. Please don’t judge me.
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Prachi Vaish says:
First of all, I’m sorry to hear that you had to go through such a heartbreaking [restict]experience and that too thrice! If you say you are so attached to him and yet he says he’s cheating because you don’t love him enough, then there are two possibilities:
1. He does not want to take responsibility for his actions and he does not want to accept his fault. He is justifying the cheating by holding you responsible
2. There could be a mismatch in the way both of you look at love/sex/marriage and you are not able to get on the same page
Either of these issues can be resolved by seeking help from an experienced marriage counsellor. The expert would be able to help you both open the communication channels in a fresh way. S/he will be able to moderate your discussions in such a way that you both have a better understanding of each other’s needs. I suggest you convince him to take at least one session and see how things work. Hope you find a way to make your marriage work…
Wishing you all the best!