Couples with different political views have become rather more common nowadays. It’s an age where women have an opinion of their own, and do not merely cast their vote towards whoever their husband supports.
Religion and politics have been a household topic for centuries now, and having different political views actually opens the stage to many healthy discussions and debates, and you get to a study a new point of view. However, that is an ideal situation.
Most such couples bicker endlessly, and find it hard to get over the fact that someone can be so outrageous as to support their respective political party. But other couples can put their differences aside and still have the romance in the relationship undiminished.
When Family Members Have Different Political Views
Political differences in marriage arise because of the different ways in which you and your partner have been raised, and the different lifestyles you’ve been exposed to. But it is not uncommon – there are many famous couples with different political beliefs such as Demi Moore and Bruce Willis, Kanye West and Kim Kardashian, and many other star couples.
Maybe you don’t always discuss politics in a civilized manner. Things can get heated and take a drastic turn for the worse. Couples with different political views never have a dull day at home.
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The arguments are endless
Elections are always a hot topic, even if they’re over. A while ago, I was having dinner at my cousin’s house. Our family, including my cousin Sean, have been lifelong devotees of a political party. My cousin’s wife, however, has completely different political views.
Predictably, an unhealthy argument began casually over the dinner table… as to who will win the next elections. Well, if you have family members with differing political views, you already know that this discussion is not going to end well.
There are no right answers
“Of course they will win! Haven’t you seen the shift in dynamics and persona of the leader as well as the party members?” Sean said to his wife, eyes glistening passionately. Political differences in a relationship, almost always cross the line and soon become persona.
His wife, Pam, was gobsmacked, and looked offended beyond belief. She couldn’t see any change in any dynamics or anyone’s persona whatsoever. She was no less, as she replied, “What are you saying, darling? Please remember what the people’s choice is.”
Then, dismissing the rest of the discussion, she concluded with, “You please stick to engineering, not that you are great at that either.” As mentioned before, the arguments between couples with different political views always gets personal.
Is there a way to keep things calm and collected?
“Look here, wifey,” Sean said with a low voice, simmering within, “What do you know about anything, about the right party. Your family worships the wrong party, the divisive party. You stick to your teaching and stop preaching!”
Pam was completely charged up by now. She said, “Yes I can preach! I know all about your liberal policies and how effective they are, while we have a President whose life and breath is about serving the nation.”
Sean couldn’t believe what he was hearing. He scoffed, “Instead of serving the nation, he is out doing God knows what, not a care for the country. If he continues to get elected this nation is doomed!” Both him and his wife were so angry by now, their ears were turning red.
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It gets awkward for everyone else too
As the rest of us sunk our heads into our dinner plates, their argument only escalated. My cousin went all in and began elucidating the perils of being the supporter of the ‘right’ party. He went on dissect the ‘disasters’ of all the economic and other policies. Pam was in no mood to listen.
A counter argument emerged as she began to rip open old wounds. The corruption charges. The whole thing snowballed into a clash of ideologies in the normally loving couple. By now, the rest of us had limbs shaking with nervousness and they were still going strong.
Yes, political differences in a relationship do exist, but things don’t always have to get too extreme and you can learn to manage differences in political views. The rest of the family members ate their food in cold silence, not knowing whether they should intervene or keep their thoughts to themselves.
Well, that escalated quickly
The dinner had gone cold and the temperature in the room only went higher and higher with the tempers that flared. By now my cousin was red with anger and his wife, pink. She reached out and took away my cousin’s dinner plate as he was eating.
Suddenly foodless and wifeless, my cousin was struck by an epiphany that the love of his life, his wife, may come from a different school of thought, but that does not lessen his affection for her in the least! Saying a quick farewell to his anger, he went up to her in the kitchen and kissed her gently on the cheek.
With a charming smile and great magnanimity he said, “May your party win, my sweetheart.” How could Pam have resisted that? How could anyone have resisted? She smiled and turned around and gave him a hug.
She quickly warmed up her husband’s plate of food and then we all had a good hearty meal. Everyone was stunned in silence. Just a minute ago they were going to claw at each other’s throats, but now they were hugging and smiling, unabashedly indulging in a public display of affection, pretending the last hour of their lives never happened.
That morning, the female intuition was proved right. After a lot of back and forth on the election result, it was found that Pam’s party did in fact win. Lesson learnt, husbands, never argue with your wife over dinner and if you do, apologize immediately. Political differences in marriage is fine, but politics is not as important as your wife.
Yes, it is possible, but you have to set certain boundaries to ensure your ‘healthy discussions and debates’ don’t get out of hand and end up hurting your partner’s feelings.
Set rules and boundaries to make sure nothing goes out of hand and gets personal. Take your arguments outside the bedroom, and once your anger has subsided, give each other a kiss, and sleep in the same bed.