My husband and I have been happily married for two years. We dated for several years before getting engaged. And all along the way we discussed our hopes and dreams for a future life together. Our plan always included having children. However, now, when we (mostly me) talk about trying to get pregnant, he expresses mixed feelings about becoming a father. He focuses on the increased commitment and workload, financial impact, and overall lifestyle changes that a baby would bring. I don’t disagree that these changes would come with a little one; my issue is that he had always led me to believe he was on board with having a family. Now I wonder if he ever meant it or if he was holding back his true feelings until after marriage.I would have never married him if I had known about his reluctance to be a parent. I have always known I wanted children, and I know I would feel an ever-present emptiness if I ended up childless. When I shared these feelings with him recently, he responded by saying that a child could destroy what we have as a couple and then a happy family life would never be possible for any of us. Please help.
Deepak Kashyap says:
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