Affair and Cheating

If medicines cure people, so do affairs. Read how this woman got her beauty back!

She was stressed with motherhood and domesticity, and gave up caring for herself, until she met a man
Woman's Naughty Smile

(As told to Tina Acharya by a homeopathic consultant)

Name changed to protect identity

A pale and a swollen face, thin shoulder length hair carelessly made into a ponytail, bulges peeping out from every inch of her body defying every effort of her loose salwar kameez to hide them; it seemed as if Ragini had put on 10 years more than her actual age and not just disproportionate pounds. A mother of two kids, a toddler of three and a seven-year-old, it seemed the last few years had taken a big toll on her. By the time she came to the clinic, she had Hashimoto’s disease: inflammation of the thyroid gland with a high TSH followed by a mild attack of psoriasis: a skin condition with thick, flaky, silver-white patches that causes redness and irritation, which was the main reason for choosing a homeopathic treatment.

Homeopathy treatment believes in rooting out the cause of disease.

An ailment in the body is often local and a signal sent by the body that there is something terribly wrong in the mind.

The stress, the stress!

I inferred that she was under awful stress. With post partum depression following C-sections and dazed and groggy from her motherhood routine for the past few years, she had put on weight beyond control, resulting in less attention (read admiration) from the husband and isolation from friends and happy activities. In addition to the usual inhibition of a traditional upbringing, this probably had an appalling hit on her psyche. Along with medication she needed psychological counselling.

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The treatment started, aiming at the ‘loosening’ of the stress accumulated in her subconscious. But, even after a few months, there was no visible development. As if Ragini didn’t want to come out of the mess. Making her respond to the treatment was one of my biggest challenges.

A fresh new hope

It was the 5th session (around 8 months of treatment) when I noticed a kind of freshness on Ragini’s face. She looked happy. But she didn’t say anything. Things went on like that…and of course Ragini was responding better. It was surprising! After a few more sessions not only was she looking good with a better hairdo and facial glow, she had lost some pounds and there was improvement in the psoriasis as well. Amazing!

On repeated insistence, Ragini revealed the best thing that happened to her in the last few months.

Love is in the air

She met someone. He was the head of the Art and Craft classes in which her seven-year-old son was enrolled. On the first encounter itself they were quite impressed with each other, for both had a common passion, art. Ragini painted, but it had been tucked away in a corner of her mind, in the ‘things-that-makes-me-happy’ folder. Gradually they developed a bond. He motivated her to revive her passion. That was a big change that helped Ragini shed some of her stress and depression. Clearly she was attracted towards him, but Ragini needed that. She started looking after herself, took better care of her body, tried to look better. More importantly, she had a positive shift towards her life from the helplessness and despair. Love often makes people look better, feel better.

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She never revealed whether she had physical intimacy with him or not, but, whatever the extent and limit of their emotional/physical affair, the process had been very therapeutic for Ragini.

Being desirable is one big thing that works wonders, with women in general and especially with young mothers in particular.

After two years of treatment, Ragini was completely out of any depression or autoimmune disorder. And I thanked ‘Mr Unknown’ for helping my client respond and recover from an acute ailment and chronic case of stress.

Sometimes affairs can be therapeutic!

Published in Affair and Cheating

3 Comments

  1. Sometimes we need someone to reintroduce us to our passions. The sad thing is that platonic relationships too get misunderstood as ‘affairs’ because try as we may, we have been taught that ‘girls/women and boys/men’ can never be just friends.
    Good post. Whatever brought her out of her depression was definitely worth it. As long as she is happy and feels good about herself, good for her. 🙂

  2. Lovely post…. so true – Sometimes affairs can be therapeutic; it feels good that she got a new life due to the affair .. Being desirable is one big thing that works wonders, with women especially young mothers…

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