I’m 25 years old, unmarried and depressed

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Hello ma’am,

I am a 25-year-old girl. All my friends have got married and I have not. For this reason I am feeling depressed and am unable to do my work well. Also, am feeling terribly lonely each and every second. It hurts that I am still single . How to cope with this situation?

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Snigdha Mishra says:

lonely and depress
Lonely and depress

Dear Single and Lonely,

Sometimes the situations are not as grim and problematic as we think them to be. The desire to be married is good… But how functional and rational is it to base all your happiness on that one aspect of life? You’re just 25 years of age, there is so much more that you can do. Even if all your friends are married, how does it mean that you have to be married too? Yes, if you desire to be married, maybe you’ll find someone and fall in love or your parents will find someone for you.

Do you know how we feel is completely in our hands and is our choice? You can either sulk and feel bad that your aren’t married yet or focus on other things that you enjoy and want to achieve in life while searching or waiting for a partner. How will desperation to get married help you?

It’ll be amazing if you can get better by reading this reply, but as you mention that the depression is preventing you from doing your work well, I strongly suggest speaking to a therapist. S/he will be able to help you see things in a new light.

Take care,

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Readers Comments On “I’m 25 years old, unmarried and depressed”

  1. Therapy helped me at an early age. But when I was living in denial about my depression, I was determined to not see a therapist. It was after a lot of sessions I could finally open up. Took me a while to get back on my feet but it helped me a lot and I am a lot better now.

  2. At this age, there is so much to do and achieve. Things are quite different for girls now when I look back 30 years before when things were tough for girls. Girls got married for the sake of society. Yet, I agree sometimes things were same when you look at the traditional beliefs. Unless you get a better partner, life will not be a bed of roses. Enjoy your present and be happy with the days you are now in. I got married for the sake of my family, and the days turned worse and I had to struggle to reestablish once again. Being married is different from remaining unmarried. Both requires different mental ability to face the society because we live in India. Don’t get depressed. Without men, women can achieve heights.

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