I am a married man, and I’m in love with my married cousin. We used to hug and kiss as teenagers.
Is this an inappropriate relationship?
Now we talk on WhatsApp, and she says she misses me. I want to hold her again.
Is it wrong to fancy a cousin? Is it a taboo and called incest?
But I want to be with her. Please tell me how to take the step.
Counsellor Mallika Pathak says:
As much as I understand that we can’t filter our feelings. There is always the question of appropriateness and inappropriateness. Touching and hugging as teenagers may be due to infatuation and curiosity. The sexual impulse right now will only lead to more complications.
Are you in an emotionally and physically satisfying relationship with your spouse?
I would recommend that you seek professional help to process the feelings and cope more healthily.