Physical intimacy & sex plays an important role in both marriages – whether love or arranged.
I am going to talk about my experience in an arranged marriage setup.
My case is that of typical “chat mummni jat byaah”
I got engaged in April last year & married two months later in June.
Being in different cities & busy in our professional lives, we couldn’t meet during our courtship days.
However, we spoke a lot on phone.
On my first night after my wedding, I was a complete nervous wreck.
I was not ready for a physical relationship with my husband yet.
My husband was kind enough to understand me & told me whenever I was ready.
The next few months were a complete nightmare as I was in a city to which I had never been before. Morever, I had to get used to my husband & his social lifestyle (we don’t stay with my in laws, though they are close by. )
A few incidents brought us close but the spark was missing.
Our first physical adventure happened on karwachauth.
It was a magical moment for me! I was so shy that I let him dominate me completely. I behaved completely like a newly married bride.
But that broke the shackles between us & we regularly made out till I accidentally became pregnant.
I am expecting in August & both me & my husband are eagerly waiting for the d-day.
I personally feel sex & physical intimacy is very important. Pregnancy should be planned but having said that I & my husband are ready to accept parenthood so early in our married life.Published in