Love in the 21st Century: Update your dating vocab with these 10 modern relationship slang phrases

Shobha Mahapatra
dating in modern days

Gone are the days of ‘Hubby’ ‘Friends with Benefits’ ‘No Strings Attached’ ‘Bf and Gf Foreva’. We live in the world of ‘Tindering’ ‘Bae’ and ‘Sexts’. Have you ever been part of a relationship and dating network that uses words like ‘ghosting’ ‘benching’ ‘draking’ and you feel a little disappointed that you haven’t updated your vocabulary? Then let us help you keep your game on in the contemporary dating scenario with these ten modern dating slang terms.

1. DTR (verb)

An abbreviation of Define The Relationship. When two people discuss their mutual understanding of a romantic relationship

Example – Sally and Harry are dating; but they are yet to DTR


2. DTF (descriptive phrase, adjective)

The term DTF literally means ‘down to fuck’, and is used to describe someone who wants to have sex at the earliest opportunity.

Example – My girlfriend is always ready for a DTF. All you need to do is ask.


3. Ghosting (verb)

The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.

Example – Ghosting is the most horrible modern dating habit. Be aware.


4. Catfishing (Verb)

To lure (someone) into a relationship by adopting a fictional online persona.

Example – Hey, it’s not her fault. Anyone can get catfished these days.


5. Benching (verb)

It is worse than ghosting. The term means to lead someone on, but not commit to them because you are unsure and simply keep them hanging.

Example – He would do everything in his power to impress me on our dates, and after that, he would simply disappear on me.


6. Swerve (Verb)

To dodge someone you have no romantic interest in.

Example – Don’t like him? Just swerve him.


7. Cuffing season (noun)

Cuffing season is that period of time between fall and the dead of winter when people start looking for someone they can spend those long, frigid months with.

Example – Being alone sucks. Glad the cuffing season is here!


8. Draking (verb)

Wallowing in sadness because of romantic failures; made famous by rapper Drake.

Example – Here, have a beer! And stop draking!


9. Thirst Trap (Noun)

A sexy photograph or flirty message posted on social media for the intent of causing others to publicly profess their attraction

Example – “Did you check her photograph on Instagram?” “Yeah, her latest thirst trap.”


10. Non-Date Date

Not real date but sort of ‘hanging out’ with each other. Creates great confusion as to what the two people are actually doing.

Example – No, it’s not a real date. Just a non-date date. OMG, I am confused now.


Welcome to love in the 21st Century!

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1 comment

Meenu Mehrotra
Meenu Mehrotra September 25, 2017 - 4:44 pm

My vocab is truly updated- interesting one @shobha🙂

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