His early years
He belonged to Bangalore but studied in a boarding school in Nainital till class 10. As a kid, he was bullied because his Hindi language skills were not up to the standards of the local boys from the northern part of India. He came back to Bangalore to finish his high school and was living with his mother and sister. His father passed away in an accident when he was just a year old. Being the youngest in the family, he was protected and loved more than anyone else. His traumatic childhood and the lack of a father-figure made him very sensitive.
As he grew older, through his late teens, he became rebellious. He fell in love with a girl in college. By the time he graduated, he found out that she was cheating on him. He was completely heartbroken. All through his childhood and teenage life, he only wished to be happy and the time he spent with this girl in a relationship was perhaps the happiest of all.
He struggled to get over her. He spent many sleepless nights only thinking of his fate, that had yet again cheated him. He began dating again. With a group of friends, he started going out to clubs, to the gym and on treks, all with one motive. He wanted to get laid.
In all his attempts to find multiple sex partners, I wondered if deep within, he only wanted to get over his pain of being cheated by his ex or was he indeed being lustful.
Finding love or merely lust
This is a classic story of a heart broken man who wants to take revenge by sleeping around. As he tried to get over his heartbreak by sleeping around, his new found love for lust completely took over his sensitive side. I couldn’t help but wonder, if it was his childhood, him being raised by a single mother or the girl who chose lust over love that were responsible for the choices in his life.
But in his case, I understood that for many, sex becomes a motivation to do anything in life. Does that mean he is bad guy? No, he is very practical and brutally honest about his lust to all the women he meets. He never promises them a marriage or a relationship. “Never say never. Who knows I might fall in love again!” he does say to me once in a while.