Making time for friends is vital for a healthy mind space
We have all done it. We met the sweetest person ever and spent every waking hour with that person. In the process of building a romantic relationship, cancelling plans after plans with our buddies is something we are all guilty of. Sure, a romantic endeavour requires time and dedication but making time for friends is vital to maintaining a healthy mind space.
Balancing a relationship and friendship takes time management. You are often “too busy” with work but somehow manage to find time for the budding romantic partner. Friends are for life and they understand this and might even cut you some slack at the end of the day but as the weirdly accurate Miss Phoebe Buffay had once said “Boyfriends and girlfriends will come and go but this is for life.” This is not to imply you do not work for the relationship but it is simply to imply you make time for your friends while you are in a relationship.
A girl’s night out is a fun way to cajole the pissed off friends you have been ignoring. And more than that, a fun night out (or a day) is a sure-shot way to a stress-free night. Friends are forgiving and no matter what, you can divulge all the details of your life you would not want to share with anyone; even your partner. Romantic relationships have its own perks and so does friendship. Dedicating time to keep up with friends helps improve your relationship and here’s why!
1. They keep alive the person you were before the relationship
Getting in a relationship can change the way you are; possibly in a good way. But more often than not, in the process of becoming a person your partner will love, we lose the touch of uniqueness in us. After a while we are just being the person we are supposed to be for a relationship and not the person we really are. Look at people after getting married. It is very natural to think “Okay, I am married now. I need to focus on this”, which is absolutely crucial but keeping in touch with people who have been important to us adds to the happiness quotient.
Also, friends help us keep the spark alive. To cite an example, visiting archaeological sites might be a passion for you, and it might not be a feasible option for your partner to go with you. You can always do this and the things that you like with your friends, just like you did it, before the relationship. Keeping that individual part of you alive will make you a happier person.
2. Friends lighten your mood
They have seen you at your absolute best and at your absolute worst – and when you are at your worst they have been a constant support. Keeping the friendship alive and making time for them from time to time will undoubtedly put you in a better mood which can lead to a better sex drive.
3. You can focus on someone else’s lives
Not in an obsessive way, though. Gathering your friends together for a binge watching session or just meeting up with them will take you through the happenings of their lives. There will be no need to constantly obsess about or think about your life.
4. They offer invaluable moral support
It is always helpful to see your problems from a different perspective. Friends provide a new outlook, a better solution, a positive vibe to your troubles and a constant moral support, no matter what. They can offer help in ways you would approve because they know you so damn well. Even if there are some issues you need help for, when it comes to your relationships, who better to turn to than your gang of pals who have always had your back.
5. It is a great release mechanism
So long into the relationship, you almost forget what it means to rant. Friendships are positive release mechanism to work-related problems you are facing. They might not be able to offer the best of advice but ranting about it for a good two hours will release you of the pressure you had built inside. You friends will do the same. Which is why making time for friends will prevent you from having a breakdown or having fits of misplaced outbursts at your partner.
There comes a point where you realise you aren’t seeing your friends enough and when you do, discuss it with your partner. An understanding partner will definitely see the point. In fact, you and your partner individually spending time apart with your respective group of friends will improve the relationship manifold.