Relationships 101

Does living-in together mean you are ready for marriage?

How likely is a couple to marry when they are in a live-in relationship?

A live-in relationship is a big leap of faith for a couple. Before taking a plunge to being together after marriage, live-in is the only way to understand each other. Like a mock marriage drill, it is an eye-opener of sorts that introduces a couple to the challenges of cohabitation. Now, living together is not an easy task. Just like in a marriage, it involves two people making a host of adjustments – from sharing personal space to finances, from emotional outbursts to passionate make-out sessions, from cooking to binge-watching shows and so on. Such real-life situations act as a true test of a love relationship. As you are ‘two’ individuals with ‘me’ set of identities, it becomes fairly important to analyse whether both of you are ready to acknowledge the ‘we’ keeping ‘me’ as it is. But, can we say that staying in a live-in for a considerable time prepares you for marriage?

Well, let us explore whether living together does help you take the decision of taking the plunge or not.

How likely are you to marry a person if you have been living together?

As discussed earlier, cohabiting with a partner is an eye-opener that introduces both of them to the challenging terrain that lies ahead. In the recent past, there has been a constant rise in the cohabitation of the couples in the country. It has become a tried and tested formula for couples to know each other in their personal space, with many advantages. Nearly all the Indian metros have also normalised live-ins. Many youngsters who stay away from their families choose to cohabit with their partners and test their compatibility and commitment. In the long run, this practice will surely reduce the increasing rates of divorces in India.

sushant and ankita : Image source

A similar pattern was observed in the United States where two-thirds of the couples who got married in 2012, had lived together before marrying. Also in the Indian popular culture, cohabiting has become a trend which has worked wonderfully for many celebs. Many even got married to their live-in partners and enjoy a camaraderie and companionship to look up to. Isn’t it a great trend that testifies that live-ins definitely has a future ahead? Well, we definitely think so.

How long should you be with someone before you get married?

How long is too long for a couple to decide either to get married or not? This question baffles many of the youngsters who are still toying with the idea of cohabitation. For such couples, here is good news. Waiting for three years or more increases the likelihood of you entering the holy matrimony. It even reduces the likelihood of divorce by 50%. So, when you are beginning a live-in pattern, try and be open to your partner about the 3+ year time to decide the long-term plans of marriage. This will keep you both on the same page, and steer clear a smooth possibility of a satisfying live-in translating into a happy marriage. But, that doesn’t mean you have to spend 3+ years in a live-in. For many couples, the realisation can come much before it. Here, we suggest you to go with your gut feeling. When you feel the time is right and you found the ‘one’, you can propose the marriage to him/her.

If you ticked the most of the prerequisites mentioned above as ‘yes’, then chances are fair that you have sailed through your live-in phase successfully and are ready to marry. Looking at the current trends, our relationship experts feel that ‘cohabit before commit’ mantra will be a key to realisation for many youngsters to decode their compatibility wisely.

Agree with us? Do share your views on whether a live-in relationship could be a potential mock-drill for marriage or not.

How do you know you are ready for marriage when you are already living together?

After spending considerable time cohabiting with each other, marriage is definitely seen as a gradual milestone or transformation for live-in couples. But many of them fail to analyse whether they are marrying just for the sake of marriage or share genuine compatibility with each other. To help such clueless couples, here is a checklist that can help them decide whether they are ready to be hitched or not.

Should stay long for marriege : Image source
  • Excited about new beginnings of life:
    Your live-in partner has brought a ‘Midas touch’ in your life. You feel a sense of completion as he/she has made you a better individual. You feel more positive in his/her presence than anybody else. You have experienced a great transformation in your personal space and focus in professional life after they came in your life, which symbolises growth. In short, you feel they are the catalysts for your quality life and you are excited to be with them
  • Keeping marriage above a wedding:
    Somebody has said it right, ‘a wedding lasts for hours, but a marriage lasts for life.’ If you both are equally invested in the quality of your marriage post cohabiting with each other for the rest of your lives, then this is a great sign ensuring ‘together forever’
  • You take pleasure in enjoying everyday life:
    Being in a live-in has introduced you to the daily household responsibilities. In a marriage, a couple enjoys a ‘grace’ called honeymoon period, but live-in has no such breathing space. The moment you move in, challenges of life are there to occupy your attention. Getting a house on rent, managing monthly budgets, cleaning the house, hosting your friends/friends of your partner are some of the life’s new challenges. As we said it earlier, such daily tasks are a mock-drill for marriage, preparing the couple for lifelong challenges. If you both are able to accommodate such changes in life and still have fun, then it is a great sign of you being ready for a marriage
  • Trust is the core of everything:
    Live-in has no-strings-attached, where any of the partners can walk-off anytime. Amid so much of uncertainties, trust over each other brings a sense of soothing effect on both the partners. So, if your trust on partner has no bounds, then this symbolises a stable relationship fit for marriage
  • Compatibility through conflicts:
    They say a couple is not a couple unless they argue over issues, big or small. Cohabiting together exposes a lot of vulnerabilities in a relationship. At times, finances, household work, the balance between professional and personal life may take shape of arguments and conflicts. But, a couple’s success lies in how they make the most of conflicts and channelise it for great compatibility. Many couples in a healthy live-in know their priorities quite well and are upfront with their views. They never hesitate in discussing important money matters and responsibilities together and resolve them mutually. This openness in a relationship provides a strong foundation for a healthy marriage
  • From if to when… :
    In the initial stages of a live-in, both the partners are uncertain whether this would lead them to the holy altar or not. Amid a lot of doubts, real-world challenges, chaos, and problems, a couple finds strength and compatibility in deciding, ‘Yes! This is the one I want to spend my life with.’ So, when that ‘if we marry’ becomes ‘when we marry’, this is a great sign symbolising you are ready to be hitched soon
  • Look forward to the ‘we-time’:
    Even after lots of arguments and disagreements, you can’t imagine your life without him/her. When they go for work trips abroad, you miss their presence and yearn for them to return back. When they are in town, all your eyes and attention are on them. You feel an instant connect and chemistry with them. The touchy-feely ways make you look forward to the ‘we-time’. Don’t worry! It’s not hormonal; it is a strong signal that you are in true love with your partner. Congrats! You are ready to be married!

View our popular video –
Love-respect talk by Raksha Bharadia – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5BlQJ5ZMWlE

How to break up with partner when you live together?

10 things couples in live-in relationships will relate to

Facebook Comments

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may also enjoy:

Yes No