50 Tauira o ngā Kuputuhi hei Whakamataku i a Ia mō te Whakamamae i a Koe

Ka taea e ngā tāne te hē i ētahi wā, me te kore e mōhio ki te pānga me ngā hua o ā rātou kupu me ā rātou whanonga. Tērā pea kua kōrero, kua mahi rānei tō hoa i tētahi mea i whara ai koe, ā, kāore e taea e koe te tuku noa atu. Mēnā kāore ia e mōhio ana i tēnei wā, tera pea ka hiahia koe ki te tuku karere kuputuhi ki a ia kia whakama ai ia mō te whara i a koe. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whara i a ia, engari e hiahia ana koe ki te whiu kupu kia kite ai ia i te whara o ō kare ā-roto.

He tuhinga kua ata titoa, koia anake te mea e hiahiatia ana e koe kia mutu ai te pouri me te aroha ki a koe anō, kia huri ai te āhua ki a ia. Tērā pea he uaua ki a koe te kōrero mō ēnei mea i te aroaro o te kanohi. Nō reira, mā te āwhina o ēnei karere, ka taea e koe te whakamārama i a ia ki te hē o ana mahi. Mēnā kua hara tō hoa i a koe, kua whakahē i a koe, kua tinihanga rānei i a koe, anei ētahi karere kaha hei whakaputa i tētahi whakapāha pono mai i a ia. 

35 Tauira o ngā Kuputuhi hei Whakamataku i a Ia mō te Whakamamae i a Koe

Ina kore tō hoa e whakaae ki te kawenga mō āna mahi, kua tae ki te wā ka tukuna atu e koe taua karere roa ki a ia hei whakamōhio atu kei te mamae koe. Anei ētahi karere mō ia āhuatanga ka puta kia mōhio ia ki tōu uara, āna hapa, me pēhea tana whakatika i tēnei wā mā te whakaae me te whakamana i ō kare ā-roto. I mua i te tuku i aua kare ā-roto mamae katoa kia puta hei tuhinga whakahāwea, he mea pai kia whai wā koe ki te tukatuka i aua kare ā-roto. Tērā pea ka tuhia ō kare ā-roto ki roto i tētahi pukapuka whakaora whara, kia mārama ai koe ki te pūtake o tō mamae, me pēhea hoki te whakapuaki i taua mamae.

Ngā karere kuputuhi hei whakama i a ia mō te tinihanga i a koe 

Āe, te mamae nui o te wairua, te wā e haehaetia ana te aroha me te pono kia miriona ngā wahi. Ki te kitea e koe kei te tūtaki tō hoa i muri i a koe, tukuna he karere mamae ki tō hoa tāne tinihanga kia pouri ai ia mō āna whanonga kino me te tinihanga i a koe:

1. "I aroha ahau ki a koe me aku mea katoa. I takahia e koe te ture tino taketake o tētahi whanaungatanga - kia pono. Me pēhea koe e mahi ai i tēnei ki ahau? He pono noa iho taku mahi ki a koe. Ā, koinei taku e whiwhi ai hei utu?" 

Āe, pātai atu ki a ia! Me kī atu ki a ia, ehara i te mea ko te pono ki tētahi tangata te mea nui mō te whanaungatanga roa. Engari ko te pono i te wā kāore te tangata i te taha, me te kore e pāngia e tētahi wheako mamae pēnei.

2. "Kei te mōhio koe, kāore anō ahau kia rongo i te pakaru penei i roto i tōku ao katoa. Kāore au i te mōhio ka taea e tetahi mea e kōrerotia ana e au te whakarerekē i tāu i mahi ai. Engari e hiahia ana ahau ki te mōhio mēnā kei a koe te mōhiotanga iti nei he hē tāu i mahi ai." 

He mea maori noa iho te pouri ina whara koe, ina tukua tō whakawhirinaki e te tangata e arohaina ana e koe. Me puta te mamae me te manukanuka katoa e pā ana ki a koe. Mā tēnei tuhinga koe e āwhina ki te whakaputa i ngā mea katoa, kia mōhio ai ia ki te nui o tōna mamae i a koe. Mena i aroha ia ki a koe ahakoa mō tētahi meneti, ka pouri ia ki tana tinihanga i a koe. 

3. "E hiahia ana ahau ki te kōrero ki a koe he aha te mea e mamae ake ana i ahau i te mea i tinihanga koe i ahau. Ko te āhua tonu o tō kī mai e aroha ana koe ki ahau. Ehara i te aroha ina tinihanga koe i tētahi i ngā wā maha. I whakatau koe i te tinihanga i ahau. Kāore rawa koe e mahi i tētahi mea pēnei mēnā i tino aroha koe ki ahau, ā, i whakaute hoki i ahau." 

Tukuna atu tēnei karere roa, mamae ki tō hoa tāne, nā te mea ko tētahi o ngā kōrero tino kaha mō ngā kare ā-roto mamae. Ko tētahi tēnei o ngā karere hei whakama i a ia mēnā i tinihanga ia i a koe, nā te mea ina tinihanga tetahi i a koe, ehara i te mea ka pakaru noa tō whakawhirinaki. E whakaatu ana hoki kāore ia e whakaute ana i a koe.

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4. "He nui ngā mea kua rerekē i waenganui i a tāua mai i taku rongonga i tō puremu. Kei te mahi koe me te mea ehara i te mea nui. Kāore ianei koe i te werohia ki roto i tō puku i te mea i tanumia oratia e koe tētahi aroha pono mai i te rā tuatahi? Kāore koe i te mōhio he mamae ki ahau te kite i tō kore aro ki te wawahi i tōku ngākau kia miriona mongamonga?"

Tukuna atu tēnei karere kuputuhi ki a ia kia whakama ai ia mō te whara i a koe. Kāore te whanaungatanga e rite anō ina pāngia e te tinihanga. Engari ko te mea kāore ia i te whakama mō te whara i a koe e whakaatu ana i te nui o tōna kore aro ki tō oranga ngākau. 

5. "I taku kitenga i tinihanga koe i ahau, i mōhio ahau kua mutu taku mahi ki a koe. I whakaaro ahau ka kino ahau ki a koe me ōku uaua katoa. Engari kua mōhio ahau me mihi atu ahau ki a koe, mō te whakaatu mai i ō āhua tūturu. Ā, mō te whakaatu mai i ahau he tika ake ahau i te tangata e teka ana i ngā wā katoa e wātea ana ki a ia. Ko taku tumanako kāore au e kite anō i a koe." 

Me pēhea te mea kia puta tōna pouri mō te whara i a koe mā te tuku i tō whakawhirinaki, e pātai ana koe? Tukuna atu tēnei kia roa, he karere mamae ki tētahi hoa tāne tinihanga hei whakaatu ki a ia e kite ana koe ko wai ia, ā, he pai ake tō noho ahakoa kāore ia. Kaua e whakaaro ka whakapāha ia mō ngā mamae katoa i pā mai ki a ia, ā, ka huri i roto i te pō kotahi. 

Ngā karere kuputuhi hei tuku ina whakapōrearea koe e ia 

He maha ngā tautohetohe, ngā pakanga, me ngā taupatupatu kei roto i ia whanaungatanga. Ka taea e ngā hoa te tino whakapōrearea i a koe, ka waiho koe i roto i te mamae me te pōuri. Tērā pea nā te mea e whakahē ana ia i a koe i ngā wā katoa, nā te mea rānei kua whakapōrearea i a koe nā te mea kāore ia i reira hei tautoko i a koe i te wā e hiahiatia ana ia e koe. Tērā pea i teka ia ki a koe, i whakamahi rānei i tō ngoikore ki a koe hei whawhai ki a koe.

Ahakoa te take, he mea maori te pouri ina whara koe i te tangata e arohaina ana e koe mā te kore e whakatutuki i ngā mea tino taketake. ngā tumanakohanga i roto i te whanaungatangaKi te mea kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea ia e pouri ai mō te whara i a koe i roto i tēnei āhuatanga, anei ētahi tuhinga hei whakamārama i a ia kua whakarērea koe e ia, ā, kāore e pai mō tō kōrua whanaungatanga.

6. "E tino mamae ana ahau i a koe e whakaiti tonu ana i ahau. He aha koe i kōrero ai i ngā wā katoa i roto i te āhua whakaitiiti? Kāore e taea e au te kī kāore tēnei e pā ki ahau. Tēnā koa, kia whakatikahia tā tāua āputa kōrero, kia tipu tahi tāua i roto i tēnei whanaungatanga."

He kupu ēnei hei whakaoho i a ia kia pouri i tana whara i a koe, hei tono i a ia kia tīmata tana mahi hei tangata tika ki a koe. Ki te mea ko tō hoa tāne, ko kāore te tāne e whakarongo ki a koe ā, ka haere tonu te whakararuraru i a koe, he tohu tēnā kei te whakaiti marie rātou i a koe, kei te ngana hoki ki te whiwhi i te mana rangatira i roto i te whanaungatanga.

7. "Ko te āhua o tāu whakahe i ahau i mua i ō hoa me tō whānau kei te whakararuraru i tō tāua whanaungatanga. Kāore koe e kite ana kei te mamae ahau nā tēnei? Me ako koe ki te rerekētanga i waenga i te whakatoi me te kino. Ehara i te mea he katakata katoa āu kōrero whakakatakata. He tino kino i ētahi wā." 

Kōrerotia kia kore ai ia e huna i ōna kanohi ki tēnei raruraru. Me mōhio ia ki te mutunga o te whakakatakata, me te tīmatanga o te whakatoi. Ko te whakakatakata tētahi o ngā āhuatanga tino ātaahua o te tangata. Heoi, he mea kino te kore aro ki ngā kare ā-roto o te hoa.

8. "He aha koe ka whakatau ai i ia whakatau me te kore e pātai mai ki tōku whakaaro? Kei te rite ahau ki tētahi mea noa iho. Kāore au e tono ana kia whakaaetia e koe aku whakaaro i ia wā. Me pātai mai ki ahau i mua i te whakatau i a koe anō. Me te mea kei roto ahau i tētahi whanaungatanga taha-kotahi. " 

He mea tino nui te ōritetanga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Ina kore taua taurite, ka tīmata tetahi o ngā hoa ki te whakahaere i ngā mea katoa. Tērā pea ka huri hei mahi kino nā te mea he āhua rangatira, he āhua rangatira hoki. Nō reira, me whakahē koe i tō hoa mō āna whanonga, mēnā ka whakahēngia koe e ia tae noa ki tēnei taumata.

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9. "Kei te whakamārama tonu mai koe i ngā mea ki ahau me te mea he tamariki ahau. Kati te whakaaro ki ahau. He whakakake tonu tāu ki ahau, ā, kei te whakapae koe i ngā mea mōku kāore i te tata ki te pono."

Mā te tuhinga tika hei whakama i a ia mō te whara i a koe, ka taea e koe te whakaatu ki tō hoa te hohonu o tā rātou whakapataritari i a koe, me te pānga ki tō whakaaro ki a koe anō. Ka whakaaro te tangata whakaiti kāore koe i te mōhio ki tētahi kaupapa, kātahi ka tawai i a koe mō taua 'kuware'.

10. "Kati te whakaiti i ahau i ngā wā katoa e wātea ana ki a koe. Kāore au e aro atu ki tēnei āhuatanga. Kei te pātai koe i ngā whakatau katoa ka mahia e au. Kei te kino haere tēnei i a koe e tīmata ana ki te whakapoauau i ahau mō ōku kaha."

Me mōhio ia kāore tēnei whanonga e akiakihia ana i muri mai, ā, e pouri ana koe mōna. Ahakoa he mahi āu, he mahi tōrangapū, he mahi ahua, he kai, he kiriata rānei, kāore e taea e ia te whakaiti i a koe mō ngā mea e pai ana koe, e arohaina ana hoki e koe. 

11. "Kei te whakanui tonu koe i tō whānau i mua i ahau. Kāore koe i te mōhio kei te mamae ahau ina mōhio ahau kāore taku aroha e utua ana i te ōrite? Kāore au e tono ana kia whiriwhiria ahau e koe, kaua i a rātou. Kei te tono noa ahau kia nui tō wā ki ahau, kia rite hoki tō manaaki i ahau ki tāu e hoatu ana ki ō whānau me ō hoa." 

He pukumahi katoa tātou i tēnei ao tere. Kāore he aha mēnā ka whakatau tō hoa ki te noho tahi me ōna mātua i ētahi wā, i ētahi wā. Heoi, mēnā kua waiho tēnei hei tikanga, ā, kei te taha koe e tō hoa, me tuku karere pēnei ki a ia kia pouri ai ia mō te kore aro ki a koe, me te kore aro ki a koe.

12. "Kua tino whakapōrearea koe i ahau. Me pēhea koe e kore ai e kōrero mai ki ahau i tono koe mō tētahi mahi i tētahi atu tāone? He whakama te rongonga mai i tētahi atu. Kāore au e tono ana kia tangohia e koe taku whakaaetanga. I taea e koe te whakamōhio mai ki ahau mō tēnei. Kei te ohorere ahau." 

Ina hoki, kāore ia e hiahia ki te tango i tō whakaaetanga i mua i te mahi i tetahi mea. Engari ina he hononga tō te tokorua, me kōrero tahi hoki ngā tokorua mō ngā whakataunga e pā ana ki a rāua. Ka whakapuaki ngā hoa i ā rāua mahere mō te heke mai, mō te wā roa. whāinga tokorua, me ā rātou mahi ina kaumātuatia rātou. Ki te hiahia koe ki tētahi whakapāha mō tana whakapōrearea i a koe, tukuna atu tēnei karere kuputuhi ki a ia kia whakama ai ia mō te whara i a koe.

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13 "I whakakakahu ahau māu, i tunu kai māu, ā, i whakarite hoki i tētahi marathon kiriata hei noho tahi māua mō te mutunga wiki.". He aha koe i whakakino ai i tēnei mea mā te kōrero ki tō hoa o mua, me te teka ki ahau mōna? Ki te mea he hoa noa iho kōrua, he aha koe i huna ai? Kua whakapōrearea anō koe i ahau. Kāore au i te mōhio he aha ahau e pupuri tonu nei i tēnei whanaungatanga.”

Ehara i te mea he whakatūpato engari mā tēnei ka mōhio ia kāore e taea e ia te teka mō ōna kare ā-roto mō tana hoa o mua, me te whakatau i ōna kare ā-roto e toe ana mō aua kare ā-roto. Mā ēnei karere pouri hei tangi i a ia ka tino āwhina i a ia ki te mōhio ki ōna hapa.

14. "He aha koe i teka ai ki ahau mō taua haerenga mahi? I kite noa ahau kei te whakamahere koe i tēnei haerenga me ō tātou hoa, ehara i ō hoa mahi. Kei te pēnei ahau me te kore whakaute me te tinihanga. I mahara ahau he nui tō tātou whakawhirinaki tetahi ki tetahi, kāore i taea e tātou te tākaro i aua kēmu kuware, koretake hoki." 

I teka ia ki a koe. He haki whero tēnā. He pai ngā kōrero teka mā i ētahi wā, nā te mea kāore he tangata tino tika. Engari he maha ngā pātai ka ara ake i te teka mō te hararei. Kōrero ki a ia mō tēnei, kia kitea ai he aha i hiahia ai ia ki te tito i tētahi kōrero teka nui, me te whakamōhio atu me mahi ia. whakahokia mai tō whakawhirinaki i muri i te teka kia pai ai te mahi a tō kōrua whanaungatanga.

15. "Kāore au i te whakapono kua whakaritea ahau e koe ki tō hoa o mua. Kāore anō koe kia wareware ki a ia? Koinei te take e rapu tonu ai koe i ngā whawhai ki ahau? Ka hoatu e au ngā mea katoa e tonoa ana e koe, me te nui atu anō. Ki te mea kāore anō koe kia wareware ki tō hoa o mua, tena koa whakamōhio mai ki ahau. Kāore au e hiahia ki te moumou taima me te kaha ki tēnei whanaungatanga."." 

Ko tētahi o ngā huarahi nui e taea ai e te hoa tāne te whakapōrearea i a koe ko te whakarite i a koe ki tana hoa o mua. He mea whakaiti, ā, kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakarongo ki ēnei kupu mamae. Me whakamōhio atu ki a ia kāore koe e aro atu ki ēnei kōrero mā te tuku karere kuputuhi ki a ia kia pouri ai ia mō te whara i a koe.

Ngā karere kuputuhi hei tuku ina wareware ia ki a koe 

Ehara i te mea pai te āhua ina warewarehia koe e tetahi, inā koa mēnā ko tō hoa aroha taua tangata. E tuhituhi mai ana a Joanna, he kaiheke ngaru 26-tau te pakeke nō Miami, ki a mātou, "I haere māua ko taku hoa tāne ki te rā whānau o tana hoa pai. Kāore ia i kōrero mai ki ahau i te wā katoa i reira māua. Kāore ia i kai tahi māua i te tina, ā, ko au anake i noho ki reira, e takaro noa ana i taku kai. Kāore i taea e au te kōrero atu ki a ia i taua wā, engari i hiahia ahau ki te tuku karere pouri ki a ia kia tangi ai ia nā te mea i tangi ahau kia moe." Mēnā kei roto koe i tētahi āhuatanga ōrite, he torutoru ā mātou karere kuputuhi hei whakamaumahara i a ia mō te kore aro ki a koe:

16. "I karangahia ahau e koe ki te marena o tō tuahine ahakoa kāore anō ahau kia tūtaki ki tō whānau i mua atu. I wareware noa koe ki ahau. Kāore hoki koe i aro ki te whakauru i ahau ki ō tuākana, tuākana rānei. Kāore koe i te whakaute i ahau."

Tukuna atu tēnei karere kuputuhi hei whakama i a ia mō te whara i a koe. Kāore e taea e ia te mawhiti noa atu me te kore aro atu ki a koe ina tata mai tōna whānau, me te kore hoki e meinga koe kia whai wāhi atu ki a rātou. Ki te hiahia ia ki te noho tahi me koe, ki te whakamōhio i a koe ki te iwi, me whakahīhī ia ki a koe.

17. "He tino mamae te kite i tō warewaretanga mai i ahau i ngā rā kua taha ake nei. Kua ngaro tō hiahia ki ahau? Ki tō whakaaro kua ngaro te kanapa o tō tāua whanaungatanga? Kāore au i te mōhio me aha ahau i te nui o te aroha i roto i tōku ngākau. Kōrero mai ki ahau he aha te mea e tupu ana, me te aha hoki e taea e tāua te mahi hei whakatika i tēnei."

He whakamataku te whakaaro noa ki tō kōrua aroha me te memeha haere o te whanaungatangaKei te pōhēhē koe, ā, kāore koe i te mōhio he aha tāu e taea ai te whakaoho anō i tō aroha me tō harikoa. He pai ake te tūtaki atu ki a ia, me te pātai atu ki a ia, kaua e takaro i ngā kēmu whakapae. E whakaatu ana tēnei karere kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakarē i a ia, ā, kei te hiahia koe ki te anga whakamua, engari koinei tētahi whai wāhitanga whakamutunga, ā, he maha tonu ngā mahi me mahi.

18. "Kāore e taea e au te whakaaro i tōku ao me te kore koe, ā, e mataku ana ahau i tēnā. Ko te āhua o tāu mahi ki ahau mai i tā tāua pakanga kei te pakaru ahau i roto. Kōrero mai ki ahau. Ka roa pea te wā e ora ai ahau engari kāore au i te rite ki te tuku i te katoa nā te whawhai kotahi. Kei te rite koe?"

Ki te tino aroha koe ki tētahi, me mahi koe i ngā mea katoa kia roa ai tōna hononga. Me whakaatu ki a ia kua rite koe ki te mahi i tētahi atu mea hei whakatika i tēnei hononga. Me pērā anō hoki ia.

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19. "Kāore rawa ahau i te momo tangata e inoi ana ki tētahi kia aro mai rātou. Nā te mea kua aroha ahau, kua pakaru tōku whakapehapeha i a koe, ā, kāore au e māharahara, nā te mea ka mahia e au ngā mea katoa māu. Koia pea te take e whakamahi kino ana koe i ahau. Ko tāku tumanako ka mōhio koe ki tēnei i mua i te mutunga rawa." 

Kua tika kia tātou katoa te whakaae tahi i roto i ngā whanaungatangaHeoi, he mea nui kia whakatakotoria he rohe mō tō whakaute i a koe anō. Kaua e tukua tetahi kia wawahi, kia whakarerekē rānei i tō tirohanga ki a koe anō. Mena kei te meinga koe e tō hoa kia pēnei te āhua, me whakaatu ki a ia te kino o tana pānga ki tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō me tō whakapono ki a koe anō.

20. "Ka hoatu e au aku mea katoa ki a koe, ā, ka maka atu e koe taku aroha. E mamae ana tōku ngākau mōu, ā, ko tāu mahi i ēnei rā tata nei he wareware i aku hiahia. Kei te meinga ahau e koe kia pōuri."

Kua whakahaweatia koe e tō hoa? Me whakaatu ki a ia te mamae i pā ki a koe. Hei whakapouri i te ngākau o tētahi, me noho ngoikore koe i ētahi wā, kia kite ai rātou i te nui o te pānga o ā rātou mahi ki a koe.

Ngā karere kuputuhi hei tuku ina whara koe i a ia 

E ai ki te kōrero, ko te tangata e tino arohaina ana e koe ka mamae rawa atu i a koe. Mēnā kua whara koe i tō hoa, me whakama ia mā te whakamahi i ēnei kōrero mō ngā kare ā-roto mamae:

21. "E mōhio ana koe ki te nui o ōku kare ā-roto mō ōku āwangawanga, heoi i tawai koe i aua mea. Kāore e taea e au te whakapuaki i te nui o te mamae i pā mai i tēnei mea. Kua murua koe e au. Engari ehara i te mea kāore koe e whai hara mō ngā mea i kōrerotia e koe." 

Murua ia e koe, engari kaua e wareware ia ki te kino o ana mahi ki a koe, me ngā roimata i kawea mai e ia ki roto i ō kanohi. 

22. "Ki taku whakaaro kāore koe e aro ki te whara i ahau i ēnei rā. Ko ō hiahia me ō kare ā-roto anake tāu e aro nui ana. Kei te whakaaro ahau kāore au e arohaina. He take pai tēnā kia nui ake ai tō aro? Ko taku tumanako tēnā." 

Tukuna atu tēnei karere kuputuhi ki a ia kia whakama ai ia mō te whara i a koe me ō kare ā-roto. Ka tīmata ngā hoa ki te whakahawea tetahi ki tetahi ina pai te āhua o te whanaungatanga. Koinei te take e kore ai e mau tonu te whanaungatanga, ā, ka mutu, ka tukua te tangata ki ngā whakamatautauranga me te kore whakapono.

23. "I oati koe ki te tiaki i ahau. Tirohia tāu mahi ki ahau. I oati koe ki te aroha engari kei te whakararuraru koe i ahau. Kia pono, kei te aroha tonu koe ki ahau?"

Pātaihia tēnei pātai me te mārama, ā, whakaotia. Ki te whakautu pono ia i tēnei pātai, ka mōhio koe ki tāu e mahi ai i muri mai. Kia kaha ake te whakapau kaha, kia mau tonu te whanaungatanga nā te mea e aroha ana koe ki tēnei tangata, ki te kore, tukua ia kia haere. Mā ēnei karere hei whakapouri i a ia, ka mōhio koe mēnā kei te whakapau kaha ia ki te whanaungatanga, kei te whakamā noa rānei i a koe.

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24. "Nā tō tāua whanaungatanga ahau i hanga hei tangata tino kaha. Kāore au e hiahia kia mutu tēnei. Engari, me i mōhio koe ki te nui o tōku aroha ki a koe, ki te nui o tō tikanga ki ahau, me te nui o te whara i pā ki ahau i ō kupu me ō mahi."

Ka mamae tonu koe i ana whanonga? Mena āe, koinei te karere me tuku e koe kia mōhio ai ia kāore koe e tuku i tēnei whanaungatanga me te kore e ngana, me te kōrero anō hoki ki a ia mō te pānga o ana mahi. Heoi, e whakaatu ana tēnei he wahine koe e aroha ana ki a koe anō, ā, e kore e piko ki tetahi mea noa iho.

25. "Ko te mea kino rawa atu, kāore koe e mōhio ki te nui o te pouri kua pā mai ki a koe. Me pēhea koe e kaha ai ki te kōrero kino? Ae, e riri ana ahau ki a koe, e riri ana hoki koe ki ahau, engari kāore tēnā e kī ana me mutu tā tāua aroha me te manaaki tetahi ki tetahi."

He wā anō ka ngangau ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, ā, ka mutu te whakaatu i te aroha mō te wā poto nā te mea e riri ana rāua tetahi ki tetahi. Koinei tētahi o ngā mea iti e whai wāhi ana ki te hinganga o te whanaungatanga. Tukuna atu tēnei karere kuputuhi kia whakama ai ia mō te whara i a koe, kia mārama ai hoki ia kāore te aroha e memeha i muri/i te wā o te pakanga.

Ngā karere kuputuhi hei tuku ina hiahia ia ki te wehe i a koe 

He uaua ki te noho me te aro ki ngā 'kōrero mo te wehenga' ina nui atu tō aroha ki a ia i ngā mea katoa o tēnei ao. He maha āu pātai: I pēhea ngā kupu whakaari katoa? Me pēhea ia e taka ai ki roto, ā, hinga i te aroha i roto i te kimo o te kanohi? Me pēhea taku tuku i a ia kia haere? Kei te tino kaha koe i ngā kare ā-roto. Ka taea e te katoa te tino taumaha. Ko tētahi huarahi hei whakakore i tēnei kapua kare ā-roto ko te tuku karere mamae, e tumanako ana ka meinga ia kia whakaaro anō mō ​​te wehenga.

26. "Whakarongo mai. E mōhio ana ahau he uaua ngā mea, ā, he iti noa iho tā tāua kitenga i a tāua anō nā te pukumahi o ā tāua kaupapa mahi. E aroha ana ahau ki a koe, ā, kāore anō ahau kia rite ki te maka atu i te katoa. E mōhio ana ahau, i roto i tōku ngākau, kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakamutu i tēnei. Me kōrero tāua ki te kanohi ki te kanohi, tēnā?"

He nui tēnei karere hei āwhina i a ia kia mārama kāore ngā wā uaua e tohu i te mutunga o tētahi whanaungatanga. Engari ko te wā tēnei e whakamatautauria ai tō kōrua aroha.

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27. "Kāore au i te whakapono kei te hiahia koe ki te wehe i a māua i muri i ngā mea katoa i mahia e au māu. I wehe koe i a māua nā te karere - He rangatira tōu! E pouri ana ahau, ā, kāore au i te whakapono kāore koe i te ngākau atawhai ki te tūtaki me te kōrero ki ahau mō tēnei mea."

Kaua e tukua ia kia mawhiti. Kōrero atu ki a ia kāore rawa e tika ana kia wehe atu i tētahi mā te tuku karere kuputuhiAhakoa kāore ia e mahi i tētahi atu mea i muri i tēnei karere, kua whakaaturia e koe te hē o ana mahi, ā, kua meinga ia kia whakama mō tana mahi ki a koe. 

28. "Ahakoa kei te whakaae ahau ki ngā mea katoa e kī mai ana koe, ehara i te mea ka whakaae ahau ki te wehe atu. He tino mamae te wairua i te huarahi i whakatau ai koe ki te whakamutu i tā tāua hononga, me te kore e ngana ki te whakahaere i ngā mea."

Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea ia e pouri ai mō te whara i a koe? Ngāna kia pono ki ō kare ā-roto, kia kite ia i tana whara i a koe. Kāore e taea e ia te whakatau i tēnei whakatau wehe ko ia anake, me te kore e hoatu he whai wāhitanga ki te whanaungatanga. 

29. "Me i hurihia ngā tūranga, kua hoatu e au he wā anō ki a koe. Engari he nanakia koe. Ka oma tonu koe ina kite koe i tētahi raruraru, ina uru rānei koe ki tētahi āhuatanga whakararuraru. Ehara ngā whanaungatanga i te mea ngāwari noa iho. Āhea koe ka mōhio ai me whai kōrero me te kaha o ngā hoa e rua, kaua ko te kotahi anake?"

Kāore i hoatu e tō hoa he wā ki a koe kia whakatikahia ngā mea? Te āhua nei kāore ia e hiahia ki te whakaora i te whanaungatanga? Ki te pērā, tukuna atu tēnei karere pono, roa, mamae ki tō hoa tāne, ka whakaatu ki a ia te whakaata.

30. "He katakata, i kitea e au kei te pirangi koe ki te wehe i a au nā tētahi atu. Te āhua nei e mōhio ana te ao katoa mō tēnei mea engari ko te tangata e tika ana kia mōhio. Kāore i te whakaiti i a koe i ēnei rā... Ko koe anake. Āe, me mahi i tāu e pai ai. Kia ora."

E mōhio ana ahau he pouri, he riri hoki tēnei āhuatanga. Engari anei tētahi pono o te rongopai hei āwhina i a koe kia pai ake tō wairua: ka pouri ia i te mutunga, nā te mea he maha ngā wā, ka pā mai ngā wehenga ki ngā tāne i muri mai. 

Ngā karere kuputuhi hei tuku i muri i te wehenga hei whakama i a ia mō te whara i a koe 

Nā, kua puta te wehenga nui. Kei tō kāinga koe e tangi ana mōna, ā, ka kite koe kei te pai ia. He tino mamae. Anei ētahi karere hei whakama i a ia mō te wehenga hē/ohorere/nanakia i a koe:

31. "E hiahia ana ahau ki te whakamōhio atu ki a koe e whakaae ana ahau ki te wehenga. E aroha ana ahau ki a koe, ā, e whakaute ana ahau ki tāu whakatau. Ki te mea ko te wehenga i a au te mea e hari ai koe, ā, e pai ake ai mō tō oranga, waiho mārika. Kua aroha pono ahau ki a koe mai anō i te rā tuatahi, nō reira he mea nui ki ahau tō harikoa. Haere rā."

Ki te hiahia koe kia hoki mai ia ki roto i tō ao, koinei tētahi o ngā mea tino nui ngā tuhinga kaha hei whakahoki mai i a ia (engari mēnā he pono tōu kōrero). Ka mōhio ia ki tāna i ngaro ai, ina tukuna atu e koe tēnei karere roa, mamae ki tō hoa tāne.

32. "Nāu ahau i meinga kia korekore noa iho i te wā katoa i noho tahi ai tāua. Engari i aroha ahau ki a koe i taua wā, ā, ināianei hoki. Kāore au e hiahia ki te whakapae i a koe mō tōku mamae, engari ka whakapae ahau i a koe mō te mea i meinga ai ahau kia iti, kia kore e tika mō tō aroha. He tangata whakahihi koe, ā, e kore rawa koe e aroha ki tētahi atu pērā i tō aroha ki a koe anō."

Ki te mea he tangata whakapehapeha tō hoa o mua, tukuna atu tēnei karere kuputuhi ki a ia kia whakama ai ia mō te whara i a koe. Kōrero atu ki a ia, kāore he tangata e ranea mōna.

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33. "He mamae te kite atu ko te tangata nāna ahau i kata nui kua riro ko ia anake te take o ōku roimata. I pai koe ki te whara i ahau, kāore? Me i pērā anō taku mahi ki a koe, kua kore koe e manawanui mō te wā roa. E koa ana ahau kua whakatau koe ki te whakarērea ahau. Kua mutu taku manawanui ki ō mahi wairangi."

Mā tēnei tuhinga ia e mea kia whakama ia mēnā i whara koe i tana mahi i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga katoa. 

34. "Kei te tuhituhi atu ahau i tēnei karere hei whakatuwhera i ō kanohi. Kaua rawa e mahi ki tētahi atu tangata pērā i tāu mahi ki ahau. Kaua e meinga rātou kia inoi mō tō aroha me tō aro. Nā tō koretake o ngā kare ā-roto me te kore e taea te whakaraerae kua ngoikore ahau."

Kāore i te pakeke, me kare e waatea ana tangata he nui ake te kino e pā ana ki a ia. Ki te whakakitea e koe tēnei mea, ka mōhio ia me pēhea te whakapai ake i a ia anō, ā, e kore e mamae tetahi atu tangata nā ōna ngoikoretanga. Ka mārama hoki ia ki te pānga o āna whanonga ki a koe, ā, ko te tumanako ka whakama ia mōna.

35. "Ngā mihi nui ki a koe mō ngā maharatanga katoa. Ka tiakina e au, ahakoa ngā mea kino. Ki te pono, i tō pana atu i ahau, koira te wā i mōhio ai ahau he tika taku." ki te noho tahi me tētahi e pai ana "Aroha mai ki ahau, arohaina hoki ahau mō tōku āhua katoa. Kāore ōku mauahara ki a koe. Kei te hiahia ahau kia ora koe."

Ki te whakahaere koe i te wehenga me te whakaute, tera pea ka pouri ia mō te whakamutu i tō whanaungatanga. Ka whakama ia mō te whakarērea o tētahi pēnei i a koe. 

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Kei te hiahia koe ki te whakamōhio i tō hoa kua tino whara koe i ana mahi engari kāore e kitea ngā kupu tika hei whakarapopoto i tō manukanuka? He aha e kore ai e tango i ngā kīanga mamae mai i ngā tāngata rongonui kua tu pakari? Mā ēnei ka whakarite kia riro i tō hoa te kawenga mō āna mahi kino, ā, ka mahi i tetahi mea hei utu mō āna mahi. Anei tētahi rārangi kīanga tāpiri mō te whara i ahau hei whakapouri i tētahi mō te whara i a koe:

36. "He mamae nā te mea he mea nui." - John Green
37. “Kāore au i whati i tō ngākau – kua whati i a koe; ā, i a koe e whati ana, kua whati i a koe tōku.”"- Emily Brontë
38. "Ehara ngā roimata e maringi ana mō tētahi atu i te tohu ngoikore. He tohu ia nō te ngākau parakore." – José N. Harris
39. "Ko te pouri te utu e utua ana e tātou mō te aroha."- Kuini Irihāpeti II
40. "Kua whati ōku ngākau. Kua whati ōku ngākau. He wāhanga tēnā o te ao, ā, he wāhanga hoki o te kimi ko wai koe kia kitea ai e koe te hoa tika." – Heidi Klum
41. “Te tukunga atu i iwi paitini he mahi tiaki i a koe anō. – Karen Salmansohn
42. “Ko te tuku kia haere koe ki te mohio ko etahi tangata he wahanga o to hitori, engari ehara i te wahanga o to mutunga.” – Steve Maraboli
42. “Ko te tuku kia haere koe ki te mohio ko etahi tangata he wahanga o to hitori, engari ehara i te wahanga o to mutunga.” – Steve Maraboli
43. "Ki te mea kei te pirangi koe kia rua ō kanohi, kia ātaahua tetahi o rātou." – Oscar Wilde
44. "Kei ahau tonu tōku ngākau, e mōhio ana ahau he tino mamae tēnei." - Emilie Autumn
45. "Ehara i te mamae. Engari ko wai i ahu mai ai." - Drishti Pālani
46. ​​"Āe, ka puta ake koe i roto i tōku hinengaro kotahi i te wiki. He rā para tonu taua rā." – Ashley Snyder
47. “I ētahi wā ka hiahiatia te mamae o te ngākau hei whakaoho i a tātou, hei āwhina hoki i a tātou kia kite he nui ake tō tātou uara i tā tātou e whakaae nei.”"- Mandy Hale
48. "'Aroha ana ahau ki a koe,' Kāore e ranea hei whakamāmā i te mamae e kore e ora, ā, ka tīmata anō i te kupu iti noa iho." – James Hilton
49. "Ko te mea e mamae ai tātou, koia te mea e whakaora ai i a tātou." - Paulo Coelho
50. “Ngā mihi, ā muri ake nei.”"- Ariana Grande

Pātai Auau

Thoughts Final

Ki te whara koe i tō hoa, me whakaae ia nā te mea te kawenga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga Ko te tikanga o tēnei ko te whakarērea o tō whakapehapeha hei oranga ngākau mō tō hoa. Ki te kore ia e whakapāha, e mōhio rānei ki āna hapa ahakoa kua tukuna e koe tētahi, ētahi rānei o ngā karere o runga ake nei, me pātai koe ki a koe anō he aha koe i noho tahi ai me tētahi tangata he hohonu te kare ā-roto o tētahi tīpune. Kāore he he o te tirotiro mēnā kei te whakama tō hoa mō te whara i a koe, engari he āhuatanga kino te tuku i a ia ki te haere tonu ki te whakama, te rapu utu rānei.

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