Question: I am a 27-year-old girl and in a relationship with a boy since the past five months. Both of us are serious about getting married but the problem is that apparently his mother is of a lower caste and my mom is making an issue out of that. I love my mom a lot and especially after I lost my father (just a year back) I don’t want to hurt her in any way. But then I also don’t want to give up on my love and want to get married to him. He and I are just perfect together.
I don’t know what to do because mom is just not agreeing. My boyfriend’s family is happy to let me in as a member. The problem is at my end only. Please help me. What should I do now?
Answer: If you need the kind of marriage that you have desired you have to convince your mother. Just by marrying the boy won’t make things okay. You will constantly have a problem with your mother. It will be a continuous effort where she will make it clear this isn’t her choice. Communication does work to a certain extent. Try talking to her and more importantly getting her familiar with the boy so that she gets to know him and like him.