Question: I am a 27-year-old girl and in a relationship with a boy since the past five months. Both of us are serious about getting married but the problem is that apparently his mother is of a lower caste and my mom is making an issue out of that. I love my mom a lot and especially after I lost my father (just a year back) I don’t want to hurt her in any way. But then I also don’t want to give up on my love and want to get married to him. He and I are just perfect together.
I don’t know what to do because mom is just not agreeing. My boyfriend’s family is happy to let me in as a member. The problem is at my end only. Please help me. What should I do now?
Answer: If you need the kind of marriage that you have desired you have to convince your mother. Just by marrying the boy won’t make things okay. You will constantly have a problem with your mother. It will be a continuous effort where she will make it clear this isn’t her choice. Communication does work to a certain extent. Try talking to her and more importantly getting her familiar with the boy so that she gets to know him and like him.
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To begin with understand your boyfriend better. How accepting are his parents? Are they prepared to come and risk talking to your mother? Assure yourself about how comfy you are and how much you would like to convince your mom. If there is positive effort here, gradually work on creating a rapport between your mom and BF. It could take time but will be the ticket to your marraige sans any objection.