Simple Rule to find out if it’s love or lust….
Love is a higher goal. Something which is considered the pinnacle of human emotions. The reason it is considered so is due to it’s purportedly being selfless. A person who loves gives. Selflessly. Love is about giving. Without expecting anything in return. Love is held higher as it is all about giving out our affection or our “possessions” to another. The possession could be anything- our time, money, material object, position, respect.
Lust has always been considered a baser instinct. Rightly so. Lust is all about taking. A person in lust takes. Selfishly. Conversely to love, Lust is all about taking affection or “other possessions” from others . The possession could be anything- their time, money, material object, position, respect.
When we are giving without expecting, that’s called love. When we focus only on taking, that’s lust.
Often, we find that both love and lust co-exist in a person. It is debatable whether the love or the lust is the dominant factor between these two individuals. When love and lust co-exist, then it is a transaction of give and take between 2 individuals.
Two or more parties come together to give and take from each other. There is also the “expectations” factor here. An Individual may profess LOVE for another with the expectation of fulfilment of his or her LUST. If you really think about it, you will realise that deep down there is nothing like “Selfless Love”.
Sooner or later, one may decide to collect their debt from the other. And that is where the dissonance and conflict comes into every relationship …. because until now you had been telling the other person that your love was selfless. When you demand your pound of flesh against this “selfless love”, relationship goes downhill. But that is the topic of another blog.