My boyfriend can’t hold his penis for more than 2 to 3 minutes during intercourse. He discussed his problem with a gynaecologist and obstetrician. She gave medicines which my boyfriend had for 11 days but they didn’t work. Doctor, can you tell me whether premature ejaculation is curable or not and how our sex life will be in the future?
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Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common sexual [restrict]disorders, perhaps as common as the common cold. Generally ‘climaxing’ before one wants to, is considered as ‘premature ejaculation’.
There are plenty of reasons why one suffers from PE. The causes are anxiety, sexual inexperience, deterioration of relationship, prolonged abstinence, victimisation by partner, unrealistic expectations from self/partner. Diabetes mellitus, neurological disorders and genito-urinary pathology can also cause PE.
Many techniques have been used to delay orgasm. The methods commonly used by many include mental arithmetic and local anaesthetic ointment, (avoid using sprays, as they contain local anesthetic which might prolong the time but take away pleasure as they causes some degree of numbness of the penis. Also in the long run this ointment may cause erectile dysfunction), wearing a disposable tissue and condom around the penis to decrease sensitivity, yogic exercises (Vajroli Mudra and the Ashwini Mudra).
If none of the above work, then newer medications are now available to prolong ejaculation time which usually start showing effect in 4/5 days.
Your boyfriend needs to consult a sexologist, not gynaecologist to get rid of this problem. With the correct diagnosis, the problem will be resolved in a week’s time. There is nothing to worry about. Your future sexual life will be fine after proper treatment.
All the best,
Dr Paras Shah