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My fiance is not opening up to me

Recently engaged, I am worried about how I will understand my fiance if he does not open up to me
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Question:

Hello ma’am,

I got engaged one and a half months ago. It is an arranged match and he lives in Australia and I am here in India. We talk daily but he doesn’t share much with me. I have pointed it out to him several times. He says he’s not a very expressive person…but I worry as to how I’ll really understand him. I get very stressed thinking about it. I mean I have to spend my life with him… Please help!

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Snigdha Mishra says:

Hello,

I can understand that it must be worrisome to be engaged to someone you can only communicate with over the phone and not meet and to top it, [restrict] he doesn’t communicate. But like he says, he may not be expressive.

Ask him questions: You can ask him clarifications and questions that you want to know about him. Share your fear with him if you think it’s okay. Let him know how you feel. Maybe it’ll enable him to understand that even though he may it be inexpressive, it’s important that your fears be put to rest.

It’s common: It’s often the case between couples that one of the two is inexpressive or less expressive than the other. Sometimes it’s difficult for people to speak and communicate online, but things are better when they’re physically with the person. You may also look at it from the point of view that he is someone who doesn’t express much or talk much… that can be your first point of acceptance and understanding and see how you can work your way from there.

The key is to be yourself and keep your communication open, honest and discuss your feelings and fears with him.

All the best,
Snidgha

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