I am a working woman. My husband has been abroad for the past 2 months (due to work). He has got a great opportunity and would be there for another 8-10 months. He visits once in a couple of months for a week. When he is there, he texts me occasionally. It feels like he does it for routine, not because he wants to. But when he visited me last time, I saw him texting with female friends on WhatsApp. He does not mention these friends to me. Also he goes out to party and even picked up smoking. He did not mention any of this to me.
When I asked, he did not give a straight answer. I feel like he and his needs have changed. I don’t understand his need to communicate with other females when all I get is a ‘I am busy’. He comes late from work and cannot talk to me properly. This has just made me even more insecure than I already was. Please suggest.
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Counsellor Snigdha Mishra says:
You’ve put it really appropriately when you said “I’ve gotten even more insecure than I already was”. It is understandable that when your husband is away, you miss him and would want him to give a bit of his attention to you.