I became a mother in the second half of 2017.
I am a member of a popular parenting portal. I read a lot about how other mothers are taking care of their babies. There is so much to learn about motherhood from others there.
As I read about more and more experiences, I started becoming overwhelmed about the ways and patterns of some mothers.
I started becoming conscious if I was managing my own babies in the same way. I subconsciously began to draw comparisons with them and my own mothering patterns.
It was not long before I was diagnosed with postpartum depression.
Since my gynaecologist also happens to be my mother’s former colleague and close friend, she decided to counsel me rather than a counsellor with whom I had a very unpleasant experience.
First of all, she asked me to disconnect myself from the portal and trust my motherly instincts completely. She said that I could confide in her if I faced any problems.
It was tough but I managed to disconnect myself from the portal. I began to believe in what I was doing is right.
I still haven’t completely recovered from postpartum depression but I’m a little happier now. I am confident of doing the right things for my babies.
So, here’s what I learnt in 2017.
Every mother has her own parenting style. Copying others will never work. Trust your instincts and learn from your mistakes.
Motherhood isn’t about copying. It is about loving your children unconditionally and raising them right.