I have been in love (since the past three years) with a South Indian Kshatriya boy and I am a Brahmin from the North. His parents have agreed to our alliance but my family is not agreeing.
They are emotionally blackmailing me by saying that relatives will boycott them if they agree. They say I wouldn’t be able to keep in contact with them if I marry him.
He works in a good company at a good position and even I started working in a good company. Please help me. What should I do?
Snigdha Mishra says:
I’m assuming that you’re an adult. I also assume that caste, etc. don’t really matter to you and your man.
Sometimes, parents tend to be dogmatic in their views. Second, this fear and emotional blackmail by parents, about relatives boycotting, is a really an old game. I doubt if any relative is interested in another, beyond the scope of gossip.
You already know what you want and must do. Openly communicate your desires to your parents and try to reason with them.
Also, be thankful that at least one set of parents agree to the match and the wedding. Think like a mature adult and decide if your parent’s consent is really what you need to be married or that’s just something you wish for.
All the best!