What if I had never discovered my spouse’s cheating?

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Someone once said, “If you loved me, how could you have let me find out about your indiscretions? How could you?” Once you have discovered your partner’s infidelities, things never go back to normal. Remember the scene from Amitabh’s Nishabdh, when his wife, after discovering the illicit bond between her husband and the young Zia Khan, looks at him suspiciously when they meet a new young girl in a social gathering?

Yes, every person who has had the misfortune of stumbling upon their spouse’s infidelity can never really forget it completely, even if they have made their peace at some level.

Following this trail of thought, read what the members of Let’s Discuss Infidelity shared.

Question: (Hypothetically speaking) you stumble upon your spouse’s infidelity, work on it together and continue the marriage. In retrospect, did you ever feel that it would have been better if you’d never found out and the transgression died a natural death?









Do share your answers with us in the comments below or engage in a healthy discussion at Let’s Discuss Infidelity.

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Genius June 14, 2018 - 12:07 pm

What a bunch of incredulous hypocrites who’d rather justify basic violation of dignity in relationships. One of the character’s on this story was responsible for breaking a home. Easy to justify breaking someone else’s home.

Deb Chatterjee April 26, 2018 - 12:26 pm

Society has become accepting of cheaters, and as we read here advice is given to hide it. The advice reeks of crass immorality, and I think the advisors are shameless themselves. Such advice makes a cheater feels good. Well here is my advice: IF YOU HAVE CHEATED EVEN ONCE, TELL YOUR SPOUSE AND STAND BY THE CONSEQUENCES. At the end of the day you know who the cheater is even if your spouse does not.

Genius June 14, 2018 - 12:08 pm

Well said

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