Nthawi zonse timauzidwa kuti maubwenzi amapangidwa mwachilengedwe, ndiye kuti, mosavuta. Mukapeza imodzi, mumangodziwa. Ngati ndinu munthu amene mukuvutika ndi mantha odzipereka, kapena nkhani zodzipereka monga momwe zimatchulidwira nthawi zambiri, mungatsutse kuti mawu onsewa sangakhale kutali ndi choonadi.
Kupatula apo, kwa inu, chokumana nacho chokhala pachibwenzi chakhala chosiyana ndendende. Ngakhale kuti mumakopeka ndi anthu ndipo mulibe vuto ndi chibwenzi mwachisawawa, mphindi pamene maganizo anu amayamba kwambiri kapena mnzanuyo afika padera mu ubwenzi, inu mukuona ngati mukumira mu nkhawa.
Pamene ubale ukupita patsogolo, nkhawa imeneyi snowballs kuthetsedwa. Mumachita mantha ndi kudzipereka kotero kuti mumachotsa malingaliro amphamvu mukapeza mwayi woyamba. Zikumveka bwino? Tiyeni tikuthandizeni kuti mufike ku gwero la mantha odziperekawa, omwe amadziwikanso kuti gamophobia, ndikuphunzira kuthana nawo bwino mothandizidwa ndi katswiri wazamisala komanso wovomerezeka wa CBT, Kranti Sihotra Momin, amene ali ndi luso lothana ndi mikangano yokhudzana ndi ubale.
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Kranti amati, “Kuopa kudzipereka kungatanthauze kukhala ndi vuto lalikulu losunga maubwenzi a nthaŵi yaitali kapena kulemekeza malonjezano.” Mantha ameneŵa nthaŵi zambiri amakhala ponseponse ndipo amakhudzanso moyo wa munthu wantchito, waumwini, ndi wa anthu ena.
Anthu omwe ali ndi nkhani zodzipereka amakhala ndi chikondi, koma kwa iwo, kuopa kutha muubwenzi wodzipereka kumakhala kwakukulu kwambiri kotero kuti kumagonjetsa malingaliro aliwonse omwe angakhale nawo kwa okondedwa awo ndikulepheretsa kuthekera kwawo kumanga ubale wolimba ndi wofunika kwambiri ndi ena. Ngakhale akufuna kupanga maubwenzi okhalitsa, opindulitsa, nkhawa zimawalepheretsa kukhala ndi wokondedwa kwa nthawi yayitali.
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Kodi n’chiyani chimachititsa kuti anthu aziopa kudzipereka?
Mofanana ndi nkhani ina iliyonse ya m’maganizo, kuopa kudzipereka sikumagwira patokha. Nthawi zonse pamakhala zoyambitsa chizolowezi ichi. Kranti akufotokoza zina mwazifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa mantha odzipereka:
- Maubwenzi olakwika: Kudziwa kapena kukhala m'mabwenzi okondana kungayambitse kukayikira za chikondi. Kusweka mtima kwambiri kapena chisudzulo cha makolo zingapangitse munthu kuopa kudzipereka
- Kutha koyipa: Munthu amene watayidwa mwachisawawa amakhala wochenjera kuti asayambe kukondana kwambiri ndi munthu wina. Zikatero, mantha achibadwa ameneŵa angakhale njira yotetezera mtima wawo kuti usachotsedwenso khungu
- Kusakayikira: Kufuna kosalekeza kwa "munthu woyenerera" kapena kuopa kutha ndi munthu wolakwika kumayambitsanso chizolowezi ichi.
- Kusakwaniritsa maubwenzi apamtima: Kukumana ndi kusiyidwa, kuzunzidwa, kapena kusakhulupirika mu maubwenzi apamtima, makamaka paubwana kapena zaka zakubadwa zotsogolera ku unyamata zingakhalenso tigger ya gamophobia
- Nkhani zodalirika: Nkhani zodalirika ndizo zomwe zimayambitsa kudzipereka
- Nkhanza paubwana: Munthu wodzipereka-phobe akhoza kuzunzidwa kapena kuzunzidwa ali mwana
- Zosowa zamaganizo zosakwaniritsidwa: Nkhani zophatikizika kapena zosowa zapamtima zomwe sizinakwaniritsidwe ali mwana zingapangitsenso munthu kuopa kudalira m'malingaliro akadzakula.
- Kukulira m'banja losagwira ntchito: Anthu ochokera m’mabanja osweka kapena m’mabanja osokonekera amakhala osamala za maubwenzi anthaŵi yaitali
Monga mukuwonera mbiri yabanja komanso zomwe zachitika paubwana ndizomwe zimayambitsa kuyankha pakuthawa kwawo. Njira yokhayo yogonjetsera mantha ndiyo kupeza gwero lake. Pachifukwa ichi, choyamba muyenera kuvomereza ndikuvomereza zizolowezi zanu za kudzipereka. Kuti tikuthandizeni kutenga sitepe yoyambayi kuti mukhale paubwenzi wodzipereka, tiyeni tiwone zizindikiro zingapo, ndi mafunso angapo omwe mungadzifunse.
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Tengani Mafunso Awa Oopa Kudzipereka
Kodi mukulimbana ndi mantha odzipereka kapena munthu wolakwika? Kodi mukuwonetsa chizolowezi chothawa chiyembekezo cha ubale wautali? Kapena mwangochitiridwa nkhanza mwa onsewo? Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati muli ndi vuto la kudzipereka? Tengani mafunso awa kuti mumvetse bwino:
- Kodi nthawi zonse mumapeza zifukwa munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi nthawi zambiri mumadzipeza kuti mukusweka ndi okondedwa wanu, kapena kuwasokoneza mpaka kumapeto, osati mwanjira ina? Inde / Ayi
- Pamene munasudzulana ndi mnzanuyo, kodi nthaŵi zambiri amadabwa chifukwa malinga ndi kunena kwa iwo, “zinthu zinali kuyenda bwino”? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumakonda kugonana mwachisawawa kusiyana ndi ubale wodzipereka? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumaona kuti akunyalanyazani ndi anzanu omwe ali pachibwenzi? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mungafotokoze zakukhosi kwanu kwa achibale ndi anzanu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumaona kuti nthawi zonse mumakopeka ndi munthu wolakwika? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mwadzipereka pantchito yanu, banja lanu, ndi anzanu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumakonda kukhala otanganidwa kuti mupewe chibwenzi? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumamva kukhala claustrophobic muubwenzi? Inde / Ayi
Ngati mwayankhapo “inde” ngakhale pa mafunso asanu mwa mafunsowa, ndiye kuti mungakhale ndi vuto lalikulu la kudzipereka. Mutha kuchita mantha kukhala pachibwenzi, ndipo mukatha kulowa m'banja, mudzawona kuti mumangoyang'ana zophophonya za mnzanu kuposa zomwe amachita bwino. Izi, nazonso, zimabweretsa vuto lanu nkhawa za ubale ku skyrocket. Ngati izi zakupangitsani kuti muyang'ane maubwenzi anu onse ndi chisa cha mano abwino, tiyeni tiwone bwinobwino zizindikiro za kudzipereka kuti timveke bwino.
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Kuzindikira zomwe muli nazo nthawi zambiri kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Ngakhale mutagwidwa ndi maubwenzi akanthawi kochepa, zingakhale zovuta kunena kuti muli ndi chibwenzi choyipa kusiyana ndi kuopa kudzipereka. Ngati mwakhala mukuyang'ana ngati simukuchita bwino pazachikondi pa chinthu china chofunika kwambiri, zimathandiza kudziwa zizindikiro za kudzipereka:
1. Kusafuna kukhala pachibwenzi kumasonyeza kuopa kudzipereka
Izi sizikutanthauza kuti aliyense amene akufuna tsiku mwachisawawa ali ndi mavuto odzipereka. Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zambiri zochitira zimenezi. Mwina mwangotuluka kumene paubwenzi wanthaŵi yaitali, kapena mukuyang’ana kwambiri ntchito yanu pakali pano, kapena mwasankha bwino kupitiriza chibwenzi mwachisawawa.
Komabe, ngati zakhala chitsanzo mu maubwenzi anu onse achikondi, muyenera kumvera. Kranti anati: “Chizoloŵezi chimenechi tingachione ngati chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zochititsa mantha za kudzipereka, makamaka ngati nthaŵi zonse munathetsa maubwenzi pamene zinthu zayamba kuipa.” Ngakhale kuti mungakonde munthu amene muli nayeyo kapena mwina mumam’konda, maganizo oti asamuke n’kupitirira siteji yachiŵiriyo amadzetsa nkhaŵa.”
2. Simukonzekera za tsogolo mu ubale uliwonse
Kranti anati: “Pamene anthu aŵiri ali pachibwenzi kapena ali pachibwenzi, amangoganizira za tsogolo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo amene ali naye panopa.” Zimenezi zimachitika kalekale asanakambirane zimene angachite kuti adzakhalepo kwa nthawi yaitali,” anatero Kranti.
Ndiye mungadziwe bwanji ngati mukulimbana ndi gamophobia? Samalani izi: Ngati simunaganizepo za tsogolo ndi munthu amene mukuchita naye chibwenzi kapena masomphenya a tsogolo lawo amakuchititsani mantha, ndi chizindikiro chakuti mukulimbana ndi mantha odzipereka.
Mungadziuze kuti ndi chifukwa chakuti mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo panopa. Kapena chifukwa munthuyu sakuwoneka ngati woyenera. Koma ngati kusafuna kuganiza za magawo otsatirawa a ubale wakhala chitsanzo, inu ntchito kuchokera malo mantha ndi nkhawa.
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3. Kudzipereka-phobe nthawi zonse kumakayikira ubale wawo
Phobia yodzipereka siyenera kusokonezedwa ndi kulephera kukonda. M'malo mwake, mantha anu angakhale chifukwa cha kukhudzidwa kwakukulu kwa wokondedwa wanu. Mutha kuwakonda koma mukuwopa kuchita. Mumasamala okondedwa anu, mumamva kuti ndinu olumikizana nawo, mumasangalala ndi kukhala nawo, komabe, simungasiye kukayikira ubale wanu.
- Bwanji ngati sandikonda?
- "Zinthu kuyenda mofulumira kwambiri? "
- "Kodi izi zitheka pakapita nthawi?"
- "Kodi ndakonzeka kukhazikika?"
Ngati mafunsowa akudetsani nkhawa kwambiri kotero kuti amayamba kukusokonezani kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino, pali nkhani zodzipereka zomwe zikusewera. M'malo mwake, chizolowezi ichi chongongoganizira za ubale munjira iliyonse ndi chimodzi mwazinthu za kudzipereka kwa amayi ndi abambo.
4. Mapulani amakuchititsani mantha
Ayi, sitikulankhula za mapulani a nthawi yayitali. Ngakhale mapulani anthawi yomweyo amakupangitsani mantha. Wokondedwa wanu akufuna kukhala limodzi kumapeto kwa sabata kapena kupita kumafilimu Lachisanu usiku, koma simungathe kunena kuti inde. M'malo mwake, mumazemba mpaka mphindi yomaliza ndi mayankho omwe sali odzipereka monga "tiyeni tisankhe pafupi ndi tsikuli" kapena "ndikudziwitsani" kapena "ndiloleni ndiganizire za izo". Ngakhale mutayankha kuti inde, kuganizira mozama kumakuchititsani kuda nkhawa komanso kupanikizika.
Mwachitsanzo, taganizirani za Riley, loya wa zaka 26. Ngakhale kuti amakonda kucheza ndi mwamuna wake Jacob, nthawi zonse amadabwa ngati zinthu zikuyenda mofulumira kwambiri. Iye anati: “Ngakhale atakonza zoti adzaonere filimu ndiponso chakudya chamadzulo, ndimachita mantha poganiza kuti wapeza ndalama zambiri ndipo mwina sindingakwaniritse zimene iye amafuna. Mofanana ndi Riley, ngati inunso mumakonda munthu amene muli naye koma mukuzengereza kupanga naye mapulani akanthawi kochepa, mosakayikira muli naye. mantha kudzipereka.
5. Ngati mulibe kugwirizana maganizo, mumaopa kudzipereka
Simukumva kukhala okondana ndi mnzanu, ngakhale mutawakonda. M’chenicheni, mungayesetsenso kupeŵa kukulitsa kudalira kulikonse kwamalingaliro pa iwo. Kusowa kugwirizana m'malingaliro ndi njira yamalingaliro "yokutetezani" kuti musavulale kapena kusweka mtima ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino.
“Popeza kuti kugwirizana kwamalingaliro kulibe m’maubwenzi anu, zimakuvutani kuwasiya.” Mumakhala ndi nthaŵi yabwino pamene muli pamodzi koma kusapezeka kwawo sikumakuvutitsani.
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6. Kudzipereka kumakupangitsani kumva kuti muli mumsampha
Pamene mukuwopa kudzipereka, ziribe kanthu kaya kudziperekako ndi kwanu kapena kwa wina. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ngati mnzanu awonetsa zizindikiro zoti apeza ndalama muubwenzi, zimakupangitsani kumva kuti mwatsekeredwa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati wokondedwa wanu akunena kuti, "Ndimakukondani", m'malo mobwezera, mumayamba kuganiza mopambanitsa tanthauzo lake.
- "Kodi zikugwirizana kwambiri?"
- "Kodi akufuna kukhala ndi ine?"
- "Chibwenzi chikupita kuti?"
- "Chatsatira chiyani? Ukwati, ana, banja?"
"Maganizowa amakupangitsani kukhala osakhazikika ndi oda nkhawa, ndikudzaza ndi chilakolako chothawa." Mwina simungafune kuthetsa chibwenzi chifukwa chakuti wokondedwa wanu wanena kuti "Ndimakukondani", koma panthawiyo, simukusowa china china kuposa kungowathawa, "akutero Kranti.
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Ngati mukukumana ndi zizindikiro zochititsa mantha izi, mungadzifunse kuti, "Kodi nkwachibadwa kuopa kudzipereka? Kodi izi zidzakhudza bwanji moyo wanga? Kodi ndingasiye bwanji kuchita mantha kudzipereka?" Mwinanso mungadziuze kuti pamene munthu woyenera abwera, simudzakhala ndi vuto kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino ndi iwo. Koma zimenezo sizowona kwenikweni.
Pokhapokha mutayamba kuthana ndi gamophobia ndikuchitapo kanthu, nkhawa ndi kusatetezeka kwa ubale nthawi zonse idzagonjetsa kuthekera kwanu kukhalabe muubwenzi wodzipereka. Ngati dongosololi lakupangitsani kumva kuti simunakwaniritsidwe m'moyo wanu, malangizo 7 awa angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mantha odzipereka ndikumanga maubwenzi okhalitsa:
1. Pezani gwero la mantha odzipereka
Kranti akulangiza kuti: “Kuti mugonjetse mantha a kudzipereka, choyamba muyenera kudziŵa zoyambitsa.” Ngati pakhala chochitika chokhumudwitsa kapena chosautsa mtima m’mbuyomo monga kutha kwa chisudzulo kapena kulekana kwa makolo anu, mungachepetse mosavuta nkhani za kudzipereka kwanu ku zochitika zimenezi.
Komabe, ngati palibe zifukwa zodziŵika ngati zimenezi, kulephera kugonja kumeneku kungayambike m’nkhani zovuta kwambiri monga zokumana nazo zaubwana zomwe mwina zinachititsa kuti munthu asamavutike kwambiri.
Ngati ndinu osakwatiwa ndipo mwatopa ndi kutsekeredwa m'nyengo yaifupi yokhudzana ndi chikondi, chithandizo cha munthu payekha ndicho njira yopitira. Kumbali ina, ngati inu muli kumverera kuti watsekeredwa muubwenzi koma sindikufuna chitsanzo chosweka ndi kuthawa kubwereza, maanja mankhwala akhoza kuchita zodabwitsa pothandiza inu ndi mnzanu mafunde pa madzi akhakula. Ngati mukuyang'ana thandizo, alangizi aluso komanso odziwa zambiri Gulu la Bonobology zili pano chifukwa cha inu.
2. Yang'anani ndi mantha anu pothetsa nkhawa
Kulimbana ndi mantha anu nthawi zambiri ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yowagonjetsera. Tonse taphunzitsidwa phunziroli tikukula. Makolo athu anatinyengerera ndi kutikakamiza kuti tiyang'ane zilombo pansi pa mabedi athu pamene tinali ndi mantha oti tingagone tokha. Kapena yendani mchipinda chosayatsidwa kuti mugonjetse mantha a mdima. Kapena limbanani ndi wopezererayo kusukulu.
Gamophobia yanu si yosiyana. “Ku kuthetsa nkhawa yodzipereka, muyenera kutuluka kunja kwa malo anu otonthoza ndikusiya kulola mantha anu kulamulira moyo wanu. Ngati muli pachibwenzi, yambani ndi njira zing'onozing'ono monga kuchitapo kanthu kuti mupange mapulani anthawi yochepa monga masiku kapena ulendo wothawa kumapeto kwa sabata. Kapena yesani kuganiza zokhala ndi munthuyo kwa nthawi yayitali ndikukhala ndi nkhawa pang'ono. Zochita zosavuta zolimbitsa thupi zodzipatulira zitha kukhala zothandiza kwambiri pakuphwanya machitidwe ovuta, "akutero Kranti.
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3. Pezani mwayi wokhala ndi mnzanu m'moyo wanu
Kudzipereka-phobes kumakhala ndi moyo wotanganidwa kwambiri. Izi zimakhala ndi zolinga ziwiri kwa iwo - kukhala otanganidwa ndi ntchito ndi zina sizimawalola kuti amve kufunikira kwa mgwirizano wanthawi yayitali ndipo zimawapangitsa kukhala omasuka zinthu zikayamba kukhala zovuta kwambiri pachibwenzi.
Ngati mwatsimikiza kuti simungathe kukhala pachibwenzi chifukwa ndiwe wantchito ndipo mulibe nthawi kapena mphamvu pa izo, dzifunseni moona mtima ngati zilidi choncho. Kapena kodi mukungogwiritsa ntchito mikhalidwe yanu monga chodzikhululukira chopeŵera kudzipereka?
"Kuti mugonjetse mantha, muyenera kuchotsa zotchinga m'maso ndikupatsanso munthu wina mwayi wabwino woti akhale gawo la moyo wanu. Mwina yesani kusakonza misonkhano yokhudzana ndi ntchito kumapeto kwa sabata ndikukhala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi mnzanu. Kapena ngati ndi mwambo kuti mupite ku club-hopping ndi anzanu Loweruka usiku, khalani ndi nthawi yopuma ndikukhala kunyumba kumapeto kwa sabata ndi mnzanuyo," akulangiza motero Kranti.
4. Khalani ndi zolinga zazing'ono, zomwe mungathe kuzikwaniritsa
Kodi ndingasiye bwanji kuchita mantha kudzipereka, mukufunsa? Mukakhala ndi chidziwitso pamakhalidwe anu ndi zomwe zimawayambitsa, ndi nthawi yoti mutenge konkriti, ngakhale zazing'ono, masitepe owongolera maphunzirowo. Zolinga izi zimatha kuyambira kusintha kaonedwe kanu kwa chibwenzi mpaka kutenga chibwenzi chomwe chilipo kupita kumlingo wina, kuthana ndi zopinga zanu ndikukonzekera tsiku ndi zina zanu, kapena osasiya kunena kuti "Ndimakukondani" kwa okondedwa anu.
Ayi, sitikunena kuti musankhe pita ndi mnzako usiku wonse. Koma kutenga ulendo kapena kuwaitanira kuti akagone kwanuko ndi malo abwino oyambira kuti muthane ndi kudzipereka. Kelly, yemwe ndi katswiri wa zomangamanga wazaka 32, anachitadi zimenezi ataona kuti akuopa kudzipereka. Anayamba kunena kuti inde kwa masiku ambiri. Ubwenziwo utangoyamba kuyenda bwino, sanaonenso kufunika kopewa ubwenzi wapamtima ndi mnzakeyo.
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5. Dzimasuleni nokha kwa 'munthu woyenera' wamatsenga
"Pokhala ndi mwamuna m'modzi, kukhala ndi bwenzi limodzi kumatanthauza kusankha pakati pa zosankha zonse zomwe mungapeze m'dziko lachibwenzi." Komabe, munthu akagwidwa ndi mantha oti atha kukhala ndi munthu wolakwika, sangathe kudzipangitsa yekha kusankha. M'nyanja muli nsomba zambiri. Bwanji ngati pali wina wabwino kwa ine kunja uko? - Malingaliro awa nthawi zambiri amakhala mazunzo awo, "akutero Kranti.
Koma kusaka kumeneku kwa “munthu woyenerera” kapena “mnzako wangwiro” kungakhale kochititsa manyazi komwe kumakusiyani kukhala wotopa ndi wosungulumwa. Inde, simungathe sankhani okondedwa anu mopepuka. Chifukwa chake, musanadumphe izi, ganizirani zomwe mukufuna mwa okondedwa anu koma musakhale ouma mtima poyesa chiyembekezo chomwe mwakhazikitsa.
“Ngati muli pachibwenzi, fufuzani ngati mnzanuyo akulemba m’mabokosiwo.” Ngati muli pachibwenzi, yang’anani kwambiri kusankha anthu amene maganizo awo ndi zolinga zawo zikugwirizana ndi zanu.” Mukapeza munthu amene amakukondani kwambiri, perekani mpata wolonjeza.
6. Chezani ndi anthu omwe ali paubwenzi wabwino
Kodi munayamba mwadzifunsapo kuti: Kodi ndi bwino kuopa kudzipereka? Kapena, nanga bwanji ngati ndikuwopa kudzipereka? Ngati mudakhalapo ndi zokumana nazo zoyipa m'mbuyomu kapena munakhalapo ndi / kuchitira umboni maubwenzi ozunza, mutha kuganiza kuti kukhala nokha sikuli koyipa ngati kukhala ndi munthu yemwe angapondereze mtima wanu wonse.
“Njira imodzi yosinthira maganizo amenewa ndiyo kukhala ndi anthu amene ali paubwenzi wabwino, anzanu, abale anu, kapena antchito anzanu.” Zimenezi n’zofunika kwambiri makamaka kwa anthu amene amaopa kudzipereka chifukwa choona anthu amene amacheza ndi anthu oipa, kaya iwowo kapena anzawo.
"Kuwona anthu omwe ali osangalala ndi akazi awo ndipo maanja omwe amathandizana akhoza kukupatsani malingaliro atsopano pa maubwenzi. Zikuthandizani kuwona momwe mgwirizano wapadziko lonse umawonekera. Mwina mungazindikire kuti mukufuna zimenezo pamoyo wanu,” akutero Kranti.
7. Lankhulani za mantha anu odzipereka
Tiyerekeze kuti muli pachibwenzi koma ngakhale mumakondana ndi bwenzi lanu, mumachita mantha kuchita. Kapena mumasangalala kukhala nawo koma osadziwa ngati ali abwino kwambiri kwa inu. Mwina, anzanu kapena achibale anu akhala akukumvetsani chisoni chifukwa cha maubwenzi osweka.
“Musazengereze kukambiranako kapena kupeza zifukwa zimene mukuona kuti zinthu sizikuyenda bwino.” Ngati muli pachibwenzi, lankhulani ndi mnzanuyo za mantha ndi nkhawa zimene mukukumana nazo.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kuopa kudzipereka kumalepheretsa luso lanu lopanga maubwenzi abwino, okhalitsa
- Manthawa atha kuzikidwa m'mbiri ya banja, zomwe adakumana nazo paubwana, zomwe adakumana nazo paubwenzi wabwino, kapena kukhala ndi / kuchitira umboni maubwenzi ozunza.
- Nkhani zodzipereka zitha kukhala njira yodzitetezera
- Ndi chithandizo choyenera, mutha kuphunzira kuthana ndi mantha awa ndi nkhawa ndikumanga ubale wokhazikika ndi mnzanu
Kulimbana ndi nkhani zodzipereka kungakuchepetseni mwayi wanu wotsegula mtima wanu ndi moyo wanu kuti mukhale ndi chikondi chenicheni ndipo kungawononge thanzi lanu. Ngakhale nthawi zambiri zimakhala zochulukira m'moyo wanu, kaya mumalola mitu yosasangalatsayo kuti ikulamulireni momwe mumakhalira moyo wanu zili ndi inu. Ndi chithandizo choyenera komanso kufuna kuthetsa machitidwe osayenera, mutha kuthana ndi mantha anu ndikupeza bwino ubale wanu.
Ibibazo
Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimachititsa mantha kudzipereka. Maubwenzi akale sakuyenda bwino, ubwana wapoizoni, kapena kuopa kukhala ndi bwenzi lolakwika ndi zina mwazomwe zimayambitsa kuopa kwa gamophobia.
Mutha kukonda wina, mwinanso kukhala naye pachikondi, koma chibwenzicho chikayamba kuchoka pachibwenzi chongokhalira kusuta kupita ku chinthu china chovuta kwambiri, mumayamba kumva kuti mwatsekeredwa. Mulibe danga la bwenzi m'moyo wanu ndipo mukumva ngati mudzipereka, mudzapereka zitsogozo za moyo wanu kwa wina. Ngati mukumva choncho, mumaopa kudzipereka.
Chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kuchita ndikufufuza muzu wa nkhani zanu zodzipereka. Onani chifukwa chake mukumva chonchi. Ndiye yesani kuyang'anizana ndi mantha anu ndi pang'onopang'ono kupeza malo bwenzi m'moyo wanu. Ngati simukukhala limodzi, yesetsani kukhala nawo usiku umodzi kapena uwiri kuti mupange mgwirizano. Sangalalani nthawi zambiri, khalani ndi anthu omwe muli nawo maubale abwino, ndi kukambirana za mantha anu ndi phungu.
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