Paas aane do: How to romance a partner who constantly needs space

Ananyaa Bhowmik
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We all have had our fair share of clingy partners who really refused to let us go anywhere or do anything without them. They would want attention all the time, needed to talk all the time and some of the insane ones thought that if we called our mother before we called them, it was actually a crime.

If you have noticed carefully, most people break up because the other one got too clingy. However, this is in stark contrast to partners who would be glad not to have all your attention because they do need space all the time. Of course, they don’t hate you, otherwise they wouldn’t have been your partner in the first place. The thing is, you have to try to get around them by respecting their space. And this is how you do it:

1. No need for sweet suffixes after their names

If in your previous relationship, your partner constantly demanded such sweet names (you know, babe, hun, honey, little muffin etc.), they needed constant validation. They probably felt as if you didn’t love them enough. No such hassle for your current partner as they can do without it. Even if you wanted to call them by a sweet name, they will either laugh at it or visibly cringe. So yeah, for partners who need space – just let them be.

2. Lesser, much lesser physical affection please

Partners who constantly need space actually have a great deal of personal space as well, and the moment you intrude that or try to, you have ruined some very good moments there. The thing is you should wait for them to make their move. They don’t hate physical affection per se, but they love their personal space more. So, yeah if a person like that makes the first move – it’s because they really like you and are trying to show affection. After that you can take the reins forward.

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3. No need to talk to them all the time

One good thing about people who need space is that you don’t have to talk to them all the time. So, if you have a meeting to attend or a party to go to – just do it! Even if you don’t call them or text them, it won’t matter because they are adult about it all and understand that everyone is busy at some point or the other. To have to call someone almost every hour to remind them that you love them is a little pathetic.

4. Always respect what they like to do

People who need space are mostly introverts, so there are always some activities that the introvert likes to do individually. Like reading, binge watching some TV series, gardening and many more. Never undermine what they like or, better yet, don’t compare your activities. Basically, avoid being a condescending jerk about their preferences. Respect what they like, show your interest and they will be willing to involve themselves in some activities of your preference as well.

Wife watching tv as husband listens to music

5. Always text instead of call

Like I said before, a person who needs space respects others’ space too. Whenever you have to talk to them, just send them a text. Something simple like “What’s up?” or “hi” or “how was your day?” Call them if it is really an emergency. Calls freak out introverts and they are far more comfortable with texting

6. Gifts

When it comes to partners who need space – something small yet thoughtful will do fine. No need to throw them a huge party or go to a club to get tipsy. Small romantic gestures like something handmade, which they will appreciate greatly because they understand the emotion behind it, food from their favourite restaurant or a little picnic at the park is enough for them. It shows them that you care without freaking them out.

So, there you go. Now you know how to date a person who needs a lot of space. See, it might feel difficult at first but dating such a person can actually prove healthy because this way you can both concentrate on your own growth as individuals. After all, love can reside in comfortable silences between two people and not just loud, expensive gestures that might or might not come from the heart.

Give me space!

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