I have been married for 20 years. Sex has been irregular. I am a nervous wreck every time we have sex. For the longest time, I did not know why.
When I began dating my girlfriend (now wife), I would often ejaculate during just smooching or petting. I didn’t make much of it then. A few months into my marriage I knew I was not doing it right, because I would always orgasm within a minute of penetration and she would never have a proper orgasm from intercourse. We figured out a way to make her orgasm without penetration, so we never really worked on the intercourse part.
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But soon the Internet arrived and I began to research and realised I had primary PE. A lot of things began to make sense. I recalled those early teen escapades in an empty flat with a bunch of boys flipping through porn magazines. We’d wank in the loo and I’d be shocked how long the others took and how quickly I was done.