Sometimes taking a break in your relationship is better than breaking up
Relationships are complex, complicated, nuanced and messy. And when things begin to go south then it makes sense to take a few steps back and process the situation, rather than complicating it further. Taking a break is the best road to recovery and can help save a relationship which might otherwise get broken for good.
Here are 5 possible reasons why taking a break is sane and remember, a break does not mean a breakup.
1. When the trust is broken
Trust forms the core of every relationship and when that trust is broken, it feels as though your entire world is falling apart. It is a good idea to go silent and go within and introspect. Take stock of your expectations, gauge whether they are realistic or not and why your trust got broken in the first place. Take a retreat alone for a few days to sort out your feelings and come back ready to communicate with your partner in a healthy way.
2. When you don’t get space in the relationship
If your relationship is making you feel claustrophobic and the demands and pressures of everyday life are getting on to you, take a break from everything. No one can work under pressure and it’s a sign that things are coming to a boil. Stress can do us more harm than good and can unleash our demon side, which will have a direct bearing on the health of our relationship/marriage.
Step away from the situation and spend time alone. Take a day off from work, book a spa or parlour session and relax your body and mind.
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3. When the hurt is too deep
This is especially in cases where the partner has cheated, lied or been hiding the truth from their partner. That is the time that you feel your heart is broken into pieces and you do not know how to deal with so much pain and hurt. The best thing is to take a break. Leave the house which you share with your partner and take refuge at your best friend’s place or parents’/sibling’s home for a few days. You are most likely to be too overwhelmed emotionally to take an objective view of the situation and might end up burning bridges out of sheer anger and disgust. It’s wise to give yourself some time to process the hurt, visit a professional perhaps, before you think of crucifying your partner.
4. When you are confused
Anytime things don’t make sense, you are confused emotionally and mentally and clarity is nowhere in sight, the best thing is to take a break and let time resolve things on its own.
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5. When you feel you are on the edge of breaking up
When you have had enough and can’t take it anymore and you feel the only way you can survive this hell is to break up with your partner – that’s the time to take a break from it all and give it one more chance to survive.
It’s hard, but you need to trust your relationship; remember all the good things about your partner; remember why you fell in love with him in the first place, place yourself in his shoes to assess his side of the story and take some time off to be absolutely sure if this is what you really want, a breakup.
A visit to a healer/psychic healer/life coach can help you gain clarity.
And once back from taking a break, the issues need to be resolved and talked about and have to be dealt with without getting into a conflict. Taking a break is just giving yourself time, space and energy to come back to the issues that caused you to take a break, in a healthier way.