Relationship Advice: Is She Not Ready for a Commitment?

I was in a relationship with this girl from my college for two years ago and we broke up because she was cheating on me and I hit her. So I had this friend, A. She was with me all through this and she was there for me always. I left my college after that but became best friends with A. I need relationship advice to understand where I stand with her now.

I can’t understand if she is ready for a relationship with me

She was also in a relationship at that time. I started liking A last year in August. I told her that I want to maintain a distance from her as I had started liking her and she was in a relationship.
She broke up with her boyfriend two months ago and we have been talking again as we used to talk before. She sometimes gives me hints that she likes me or sees me in her future but she might not be ready for another relationship right now.
But whenever I have told her that I like her, she never replies. She starts talking about something else and avoids the topic. Is she not ready for a commitment?

I don’t understand what she wants from me.
Should I wait for her and keep talking to her or should I move on? What would be your relationship advice?

Please Help

Dear Boy,

Your friend gives you hints that she likes you and sees you in her future, but she’s not ready for a relationship right now. You, on the other hand, are absolutely sure that you like her and want a relationship with her.

Is that correct?

Now, if you have taken such an effort to write to us, I’ll make it simple for you.

My relationship advice is express yourself

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It’s clear you like this girl, care for her and respect her enough to figure out her feelings and needs.
If you do not understand what she wants from you it’s very simple…Ask her. Stop guessing. Don’t you think that’s the best approach here? What’s stopping you from informing her about your apprehensions and intentions and asking her about her feelings? The best way to express your feelings to someone you love is to tell them.

Once you clearly know what she’s thinking you can take an informed decision whether you should be waiting for her or move on. No hints, no guessing here.

All the best!

Snigdha Mishra