Will running a business with your husband affect your relationship at home? Want a child but your partner doesn't? Our expert speaks...

From navigating the tricky territory of doing business with your spouse to readiness for parenthood, psychologist Deepak Kashyap provides expert guidance for your relationship issues

Team Bonobology | Posted on 27 Apr 2016
On facing challenges together as spouses, from being parents to being business partners

My husband and I are attempting to start our own business. While this is extremely exciting, I'm also a bit worried about the effect that it will have on our marriage. It's going to be stressful in the initial phases of our business and I don't want the stress to come home with us and make our household tense. Do you have any advice or tips on how we can successfully work together and build our business, but also keep our relationship as strong as possible?

Doing business is tough, period. Doing it with someone you love is even tougher. His or her actions will affect not only your finances, but also the romantic aspect of your life. 

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My husband and I have been happily married for two years. We dated for several years before getting engaged. And all along the way we discussed our hopes and dreams for a future life together. Our plan always included having children. However, now, when we (mostly me) talk about trying to get pregnant, he expresses mixed feelings about becoming a father. He focuses on the increased commitment and workload, financial impact, and overall lifestyle changes that a baby would bring. I don't disagree that these changes would come with a little one; my issue is that he had always led me to believe he was on board with having a family. Now I wonder if he ever meant it or if he was holding back his true feelings until after marriage.


I would have never married him if I had known about his reluctance to be a parent. I have always known I wanted children, and I know I would feel an ever-present emptiness if I ended up childless. When I shared these feelings with him recently, he responded by saying that a child could destroy what we have as a couple and then a happy family life would never be possible for any of us. Please help.

Having a child is a responsibility like no other. It is also a joy that has a parallel in very few achievements of life. For the same reason, nobody should be forced to have a child, and no one should be stopped from becoming a parent if he/she chooses to be one either. 

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Avantika Debnath: Honestly, a headstrong woman is certainly not something that 90% of the Indian man or their mother/fathers/other family members who have a final say in the decision making want... Headstrong woman are just not welcome in 90% of the middle class to upper middle class indian families.. so if you are strong enough to voice out ur decisions in matters of business or even personal takes like having a child, while the partner, I am assuming male, thinks otherwise... changes are you will be presented with a good amount of retaliation.

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