He says he will only marry her if she converts to Islam

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Dear ma’am,

My sister is in love with a Muslim boy and we belong to a Hindu family. The boy is a good match for my sister and they love each other, but my parents are not fully convinced. I am supporting her decision of marriage to that boy but I don’t like the idea of conversion.

The boy has said that he wants her to convert to Islam and then he’ll marry her. My sister is confused as she doesn’t want to convert just for marriage. At the same time, she doesn’t want to leave him.

I am really worried about my sister. Please suggest something because I can’t see my sister in this situation. She loves him very much and he also loves her truly. Please ma’am, please suggest something. It would be a great help.

Snigdha Mishra says:


The only suggestion that I can give to you is that you support them and show them your love and empathy.

Conversion or not should be between the couple and I doubt if anyone else can say or do much about it.

Also, the conversion should ideally be your sister’s choice and not anyone else’s. It should be an informed decision and she shouldn’t be forced into anything just for marriage.

The basis of any relationship is mutual respect and acceptance. Everyone should be allowed to follow their religion and faith of choice, married or otherwise. So just continue showing them your love and support. There isn’t much for me to say here.

Thank you,

Counsellor Snigdha Mishra


Readers Comments On “He says he will only marry her if she converts to Islam”

  1. Deb Chatterjee

    The problem is that religion is an identifier. No one can reject his/her past. One uniquely identifies with the ancestral faith/beliefs/values/religion.

    The question is disturbing. No one should have to convert in an ideal situation. However when one converts for marriage, then the converted is accepted as a part of the faith. This adds to the trust. That is why in particular Abrahamic faiths insist conversion.

    Specifically in this case, the girl should not marry the Muslim lover but ask him to convert to Hinduism. That demand will never be met, because in Islam marriage can only happen between believers.

    It is this dilemma about love and marriage that is causing divorce and separation to go up. Also, given the current state of affairs in India, the girl should find out if her Muslim
    lover is a member of the sleeper cells in the country and has affiliation with the ISIS. Love is blind and can rob one of basic senses and logic.

    1. Imran murtaza

      ???? so true according to new trend a muslim shud be treated like a militant or in affiliation with isisi till he doesnt prove to be a namo bakt. If u have a Muslim frnd u shud be cautious other country may have plotted him in ur life???? wt the heck. Wt seed u trying to sow, i wonder if u can imagine the repercussions n the end result of wt u suggesting….. #lovejihad ????

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