I am in love with a person who doesn’t value true love. Whenever he feels like he needs a girl to start a relationship, he comes to me, talks with me in a very nice manner and pampers me. But after some days he behaves like that I don’t matter to him. His behaviour is so confusing even sometimes I get confused whether he loves me or not.
A few days back he said that I should start a new relationship with one of his friends and then the next day he started prioritising me. Yesterday he sent me a rap song… it was a sad song. I don’t know why he is not leaving me and even whenever I try to leave him he does not let me do that. I don’t know what I should do. Please help.
Snigdha Mishra says:
Dear Young Lady,
I’m gonna be extremely frank and outspoken with you. Okay? Please do not take this otherwise.
I read your problem a few times. You know what I read. “OMG! I am so powerless. Look at the poor me. I don’t know what to do. This man controls me. This man controls my life. Actually no… it’s not my life, it’s his life. He can do what he wants. I’m a puppet. I have no control. I don’t have a say.”
This is how you sound. Is this what you’ve been telling yourself?
Wake up and smell the beans. Stop pitying yourself. Stop behaving like you have no control over this situation or your life’s decisions. You’re a grown woman. Please decide for yourself.
What is it that you want? Do you want to stay with a man who treats you the way he does? Do you think you want better?
You already know what you want to do. But since you’ve been hosting yourself this pity party, you seem to think you’re helpless and don’t have a choice. Well, you do.
And again, I am no one to tell you what to do. YOUR LIFE, YOUR DECISION.
All the best!