Love and Friendship

You swore you’ll always be crazy about me, but you have changed!

We asked our members at the Facebook group Let’s Discuss Life after 40 about how love changes in a long-term relationship
couple disagreement

We swear everlasting love, romance and commitment; yet a decade after living with the same person, things start to change.

How love changes over a period of time

We at Bonobology have always been intrigued by how romantic love plays out in a long-term relationship. Unlike previous generations, we now face 40-50 years of togetherness in a setting where the partner is looked upon as the one source for all needs – physical, emotional, financial and everything else under the sun.

Fast forward 5 or 10 years in the relationship, and we find ourselves questioning our very own romance and passion in the relationship, forget what we think of the spouse’s.

Often, the greatest threat we face is our refusal to accept the inevitability of change. But as we grow, learn and unlearn, we change. So do our partners and so does the love between us. In this spirit we asked ‘How love changes’ on our FB group ‘Let’s Discuss Life after 40’.

“What is that one thing you understand about romantic love now that you did not understand back then?” asked Team Bonobology. Here are the responses we received.

Pooja Priyamvadaa

“That it can happen many times not just once.”

Pooja Priyamvada

“That there is a very thin line between love and hate.”

Raksha Bharadia

Raksha Bharadia

Maulik MEhta

“That love is beyond romance…it’s all about fighting and patching up again.”

Maulik Mehta

“After the initial heady feeling, love is a lot about respect.”

Shruti Swaroop

Shruti Swaroop

“It has sealed my belief that there’s nothing really like love. There’s lust, attraction, likeness, companionship, comfort, but I’m not sure what love really is and if something as vague as love exists.”

Aarif Malik

“That life is much beyond loving your spouse.”

Abhijit Gadre

abhijit gadre

Rashi Somani

“Love can be intoxicating, heady, to die for in the beginning and with time becomes a steady solid, kind of a feeling. Can be heartache and heartwarming, both.”

Rashi Somani Bhambani

“I’ve understood that it’s a lot about space. And it’s okay to demand it and give it.”

Chinha Raheja

chinha raheja

Linda Brook Vible

“Unfortunately, my experiences lead me to say sometimes love is not enough.”

Linda Brook Vible


“You can only give and receive from what you are…”

Rashminder Kaur

Rashminder Kaur

Mayuresh Didolkar

“That it can hurt and leave you broken. That having loved and lost is still worth most of the time.”

Mayuresh Didolkar

“Water lasts longer than fire. Affection, respect, care and laughter are more a part of love than burning passion is.”

Amreeta Sen

amreeta sen

preeti patted

“Initially, love makes your heart flutter with excitement and later gives you peace, calmness and strength.”

Preeti Patted


“Love needs separate bathrooms, TVs and bank accounts to survive!”

Tia Basu

Tia BAsu

Sudha H Sharma

“Love is when you don’t have to please your husband or boyfriend all the time and it is perfectly okay to speak your mind.”

Sudha H Sharma

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