Reach out for professional help
Let him go
Either you start disengaging, or take a chance and tell him how you feel
Try trust building exercises, or living away for a while
Stay calm, go away and work out your end goals
One way to ease the tension is to perhaps look at your values as just that and not as a universal code of conduct which everyone has to abide with
Compulsive lying is one of the major symptoms of low self-esteem.
Communicate about these important things before marriage and achieve those mutually agreed-on goals before you seal things with the stamp of marriage.