Love of small things
What makes your partner special? It doesn’t lie in grand gestures like an extravagant Valentine’s Day dinner or expensive gift: What makes your partner special is much more nuanced. It lies in their observation and understanding of your intimate details: Doing things that make you feel comfortable and safe rather than excited. The things that separate them from all that you have been through till now.
Walk to my left
While you are walking together in relentless traffic and you are talking your head off to your partner and suddenly it happens: they nudge you, only so slightly, to their left, that is, away from the traffic, where they can guard you, even if it is with their own body. Sometimes you even don’t notice, but you are always on their mind.
Kiss your forehead
If you are afraid, agitated or feeling defeated, a warm and fuzzy hug from your partner can communicate a lot. Remember those moments of silence, when, in order to calm you down, they wrap their arms around you and tenderly kiss your forehead: All troubles seem to melt away and pour down your eyes as tears. Even in that moment you know that there is someone who understands you and stands by you against the rest of the world.
Watch your steps
Like a messiah, your partner seems to always be there to rescue you. They find the thing that you lost, remind you of the things that you forget, pick up the things that you left behind you, even give you support when you stumble and fall – in every way a person can be rescued. You are important to them, and by default, all the things important for you are also vital for them, too.
Play your music
If you are down and out, or just tired, your partner knows how to cheer you up. Just imagine, after the ordeal in the office, you get in the car with your partner to go home. Maybe you are in a mood and in no mind to talk about it, but your partner just understands your mood. Your partner turns on the perfect music to get you better. In no time you are singing along, your mood improves and your spirits lift up. Music heals, with a little help from your partner.
Remember your order
In a restaurant or coffee shop, you enter to find your favourite beverage already waiting for you there. Doesn’t it feel like magic? But it’s just observation and attention that your partner gives you. Whether it’s a dinner out or a breakfast in bed, you get exactly what you were craving. This is what happens when your partner listens to you, really listens.
Especially if you are not a morning person, then you will appreciate these gestures the most. If you wake up late or are just running late, your partner spares you from the morning chores and you can get ready in peace. They bring your first tea or coffee in order to ease your start and prepare you to face the rest of the day, because they know you are not really awake until your first cup.
In our society there are so many taboos about touching the feet. You should touch some feet and never touch others. But in the personal space between you and your partner, society doesn’t get a say. Here there is no hierarchy or power structure or designation when it comes to comforting each other. So when your feet are aching and your partner comes to the rescue in spite of themselves, then it is surely a sign of love.
Your partner always feels proud about you and time and again they want to show you off to their acquaintances. They gush even about your smallest achievement. This may become embarrassing sometimes, but always remember, it comes from a place of love.
Do you remember the day you first said the three magic words to your partner? Your partner, if they are the right one, will always remember that day that changed their lives. Your partner celebrates a bunch of unusual anniversaries with you, just to rejoice that you are in their life.
A couple is together when they have their common personal space: A niche where you both can be yourselves with warts and all. Your partner will always make sure you can have some time reserved just for yourselves together. Maybe a warm bath together or reading a book together: Something special that you two share.