A homemaker’s fantasies
Homemakers have the craziest of lives and work schedules. Managing kids, handling everything under the sun and getting it in order while doing their own work, is a gruelling task. So, for a homemaker, certain fantasies do take root, and I set out to explore them.
My sister has been a homemaker for about 5 years now. She has a small boy and is living one of the best lives that she can, and she told me that this topic seemed very awkward to her. However, she also shared some things she thought would be great if they happened.
1. The little ones doing their studies by themselves
My nephew is in lower kindergarten, and he is a naughty little kid. However, when he does study he excels in anything he sets his mind to. My sister wants him to study on his own some days when she is busy cooking or just doing her work, and cannot give him the time of the day.
She wants him to work and get there by himself, and be good at whatever he sets his mind to.
2. The hubby who washes his own underwear
It is a truth universally acknowledged that men are dirty people. My jiju does not like washing his underwear and the laundry piles up. Since, my didi grew up in a posh family where she did not do much work, it seems scary for her, that she has to put herself through this.
She tells me that the day her husband starts cleaning everything, she would be the happiest woman alive.
3. The kid who does not cry
It is hard when your boy keeps you awake at night and you have to prepare food just the next morning. Sometimes the fantasy is just that the boy does not cry at night and lets her sleep. Or that her husband, tired as he is from work, takes care of the kid for once.
4. Elves who fix toys
My di is an English graduate. She can write monologues and poetry aplenty. However, when her kid breaks a little toy, she is at a loss. Many times she has called me up because the little Hot Wheels car won’t run properly any more. It would be so nice to have elves around to do that work for her, she muses as she uses a screwdriver to get his Ambulance to run again.
5. Carefree vacations
Di told me early on in her marriage that she wants her husband to not leave for work every morning. My jiju is a serious man, but, he is kind. He wants to stay at home and help her on most days but, office gets in the way. So, when vacations come around they just run and do all these crazy things that they cannot do usually.
With a new promotion and the workload though, the little vacations have become a fantasy for her, and she wishes they would come back.
6. A quiet night
A toddler, a tired husband, an ailing mother-in-law, my di has a lot on her plate. She told me that once she could not sleep for almost a month because her kid was having the flu. Her fantasy literally includes the day when everyone is healthy and she can have a good night of sleep without worrying about anything.
7. A forever
Even though married life is difficult, my di told me that her fantasy is that it would last beyond the edges of time. Even though they get sick, and things keep hitting, she wants to live long enough to see all this come to fruition. She wants her husband’s talk at night, the little school gossips from my nephew, and everything else.
Homemakers do not have the luxury to fantasise about the world at their feet. But, some days they just want respite and love, and I think that is only fair for someone doing the toughest job in the world.