5 ways to deal with your husband’s parents

by Team Bonobology
Kabhi khushi kabhi gam

How do you deal with the people who created your husband?

Those of you blessed with adjusting, liberal and loving in-laws, this piece is not for you.

For the rest of us, 99.999%, here are some handy tips.

Avoid being collateral damage in the war between your in-laws and the home staff

Be generous with your wallet, very generous. These two will never see eye-to-eye, so instead of trying to get them to bond, incentivise the house help to stand down with the help of Gandhi ji!

Avoid the prison of emotional blackmail

Next time your holiday plans abruptly get cancelled with the guilt of the ever present “I don’t know how many days I have left with you”, take measures to increase those days. No more laddoos for the fathers-in-law whose hearts are giving out any minute now or saree shopping or exhibition hopping for the mothers-in-law whose knees are no longer up for it.

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Avoid the influx of chachi saas ki behen ki nanad ki visits

If the visiting relatives are beyond second cousins, find a conveniently timed charity or pressing task to attend to which saves you from serving unlimited cups of tea and nashta as well as explains your absence during these mindless gossip sessions.

Their never-ending struggles with technology

Since they insist on being active smartphone users, their unskilled manoeuvring of WhatsApp and Facebook causes you to play technician more often than you would like. The solution to this is simple, have children. Pass on the responsibility to your offspring under the pretence of quality grandparent bonding time.

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The unwanted critical feedback for all your actions

In their eyes you can’t seem to do anything right, be it making the perfect round roti or raising their grandchildren. To avoid being constantly compared and put down, do the same to them. Compare them to their siblings, friends and cousins. “Masiji ke haath ka sheera kitna tasty tha, I wish hum bhi bana sakte.”

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Radha Patel
Radha Patel June 15, 2018 - 9:20 pm

That is such a piece of advice! Maintaining a balance in dealing with her husband’s parents is something that every married woman has to struggle with. These tips are not only helpful, but they are very pragmatic in their reasoning. They will actually help avoiding the collateral damage and save the woman under spotlight big time! Kudos!!

Sukanya Banerjee
Sukanya Banerjee June 9, 2018 - 1:33 am

Really loved the tips. And specially the last one. Totally agree with Sneha that you need to keep your sense of humour at a high all the time.

Sneha Gupta
Sneha Gupta May 28, 2018 - 1:09 pm

Hahahah…. Nice ones!!! I loved the last pointer and the line: “Masiji ke haath ka sheera kitna tasty tha, I wish hum bhi bana sakte.”

These pointers would be really helpful 🙂

One more tip from experience: Keep your sense of humour alive: Whenever your in-laws taunt you or pick-point you, don’t take it too seriously or get upset, keep the atmosphere light and keep your sense of humour, you will see in a couple days things will change!


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