We made it, despite being strangers in the beginning

Deepa Vishal
couple , sunset, wine glass

Mine is an arranged marriage. And by arranged marriage, I mean to say that me and my future husband got exactly ten minutes to know each other to take the decision of spending an entire lifetime together.

I know, today’s generation will find it very difficult to believe that two people can decide to get married just by spending ten minutes with each other. Here, I wish to say that I am really grateful to belong to that generation where we were taught to ignore the differences and just focus on making it till the end. Why should it matter whether the prospective bride and groom have the same hobbies or not? Hobbies never really made a marriage work!

We are as different as two people can be. While I am more of a dreamer, my husband focuses more on the practical side of life. On weekends, when it would be raining heavily, I would wish for a long drive (albeit in a hired car) while my husband would point out that there would be heavy traffic, no place exactly where we can hang-out in the heavy rains and it would take us hours to reach any place. Some weekends I win, some weekends I let him win (that is what every wife says!).

We have differences even in our eating habits. While I usually eat home-made food, he is crazy about junk food. (He actually says it is more easier to digest the junk food than the hygienic food that is prepared at home!) In spite of this, we do enjoy the occasional junk in the form of burger or chaat (I won’t label anything as precious as pizza as ‘junk food’!).

It has been ten years now… ten years of getting to know each other, understanding each other’s mood swings and most of all, knowing the right time to talk and right time to remain silent. And you know what, this is exactly what is needed for any marriage to work! Move over hobbies, move over likes and dislikes, move over personality traits, we don’t recognise you! All we believe in, is the will to stick by each other’s side, come what may and focus on making it till the end!

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Aman Singh
Aman Singh September 2, 2017 - 4:00 pm

This is how real love stories are. 🙂

Deepa Vishal
Deepa Vishal September 4, 2017 - 12:43 pm


Radha Baladubramanian August 31, 2017 - 4:00 pm

Beautifully written. Now a days such relations r not seen, infact not possible reason is no one has pations

Deepa Vishal
Deepa Vishal September 1, 2017 - 12:23 pm

Thank U…

Shobha Krishnan August 31, 2017 - 3:37 pm

Beautifully written.
The amazing side of arrange marriage that people forget to see.

Deepa Vishal
Deepa Vishal September 1, 2017 - 12:22 pm

Thank U!!

C N Krishnan August 30, 2017 - 8:05 pm

A good article in deed on the right side of married life and the resolve to be together always come what may.

Deepa Vishal
Deepa Vishal August 31, 2017 - 11:49 am

Thanks a lot…

Ibada Monn
Ibada Monn August 30, 2017 - 7:39 pm

You and your husband are truly lucky. And of course deserve credit for making a marriage with a ‘stranger’ work. Very well written

Deepa Vishal
Deepa Vishal August 31, 2017 - 11:48 am

Thank U!!!

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