Some men just like the pain
Vinod had fantasies around pain and punishment from a very young age. In his teens he bought a riding crop from their trip to Thailand and had to create a complex lie to explain its presence in the house when it was found. When he went to see a Domme in London for the first time she beat him so hard that the bruises lasted a week. He now is sure that he is more masochistic than submissive, so it’s about pain more than humiliation.
Dhruv recalls that a girl he played with at junior school would spank him often during play if he misbehaved in the games. Later in boarding school he recalls if you lost a card game the loser would have his/her knuckles hit hard with the pack of cards. He likes BDSM with its pain balanced with pleasure.
In the post-Fifty Shades of Grey world, people are increasingly talking about BDSM (bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism), dungeons, Subs and Dommes and the mind boggling variety of toys used in these sadomasochistic sexual activities.