The reality of being a single mother in India
Widow…the word consumes itself. Being a widow at the age of 28, and a single mother is a life of daily struggle. The fight for respectable existence is a hard one for most single mothers in India and is unique for every mother. “Where’s the father/husband?” is an extremely common question, from school admission to places like supermarkets. On knowing the truth, people change their attitudes.
When I went for my son’s admission to school, I was instantly asked after filling his school form how I would manage paying his fees being a single mother and would I be able to cope with my job and his studies alone.
Not just school and social places, but even in the supermarket my motherhood was always questioned. Once while I was shopping in a supermarket, I met one of my schoolmates who I had not been in touch with for years. She said, “Poor you. May God bless you.” She also suggested I should get my kundali checked for any “dosh” due to which my husband might have died. With tears in my eyes I walked away.