Girlfriends and the bride
If you feel lucky that you are the first one to embark on marriage among your friends, then you must also brace yourself for a lot of pressure from your peers. Those who say marriage changes nothing are lying to you. It not only changes your relationship status from single to married, but it affects every aspect of life. You move in with someone else, you change your routine, you start a new life. Bet on it that your friends will be the first to notice and point out every change you make. But you can trust them to be your loyal support system while you are going through this transition. So don’t give up on the old relationships for the new one; move forward with your life in grace.
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As soon as you announce your marriage, your friends will start their celebrations. But you will definitely hear some wailing and moaning from your bridesmaid on the lines of the popular song, “tera hua abh mera kaya hoga?” Your marriage will make them think about their relationships and life choices. Some will wonder when or whether they will ever get married. You can even expect some healthy jealousy and complaints from your peers. They will compare your fiancé with their partner and evaluate their life. Don’t bother about that, at the end of the day they are happy for you, though you will have definite moments of doubt about it. The best option is to give them something to do in the ceremony; that’ll keep their minds off things.
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Once you are the first one who is married, you become the source for information for the rest of your friends. Be it the location for the wedding or the perfect honeymoon spot, you have become the authority on those details. Enjoy it while you can, as the rest of them are going to join your ranks soon.
Girls’ night out
After marriage your priorities change. So you keep cancelling or delaying appointments with friends. But trust me when I say that it won’t be taken in good spirit by your friends. They will not understand your predicament unless they go through the same thing. In life, those who matter never mind and those who mind never matter. Remember that and choose wisely.
After marriage you are definitely considered an adult by your friends. So whenever they are in trouble, they will think of you for comfort. Your home would become a parent-free safe space for them and you should be prepared for some unwanted guests from time to time.
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Best bachelorette night
You will receive the best bachelorette party. All other bachelorette parties that will come after yours will always be compared but never surpass yours. That is because in your party it will be a bunch of single people having the time of their life. But all others will include married people with responsibilities bringing the party animals down.
If you are married first, you become someone who has joined the club of elites. Your friends who look up to you would want you to fix them up with someone. They would believe that you have some magical access to marriageable candidates and will urge you to help them out. Marriage is something some people don’t understand without experiencing it. So please cut them some slack.
All the parents of all your friends will use your example to nudge their kids towards marriage and your friends in their turn will use your name to get approval for everything. Be it a short trip with their partner or a night out, they will use your name to get approval from their parents. It’s just common sense that if a married woman is in the group, she will be more responsible than others. Common sense is not always true, but the illusion is very useful.
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If you think that all the sarees you received at your wedding as gifts belong exclusively to you, then you are undoubtedly wrong. Now that you own a bunch of them, your friends will designate you as the official saree lender for every auspicious occasion. But don’t be afraid, sometimes they will even return those sarees unharmed.
The first baby
If along with the first marriage you have the first child in the group, then God may help you to raise your child without a bunch of pampering uncles and aunties around. Your kid will not run out of gifts, toys and clothes ever. You will always find someone to babysit for you. And the best part is your friends will be around you, as they are yet to shoulder these responsibilities.
Enjoy your married life and things do get better with a little help from your friends.