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Te ōritetanga i roto i te whanaungatanga

Te Ōritetanga i roto i te Hononga: Te Tikanga, Ngā Tohu, Me Pēhea te Hanga

He maha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e kī ana e hiahia ana rātou ki te tika, engari he onge te wehewehenga tika i waenganui. Kāore koe e hanga i tētahi hononga hauora mā te huri i te aroha hei pukapuka kaute. Ka hangaia e koe ina rongo ngā tāngata e rua i te whakaute, te whakarongohia, te uara, me te haumaru kia tino noho ko rātou anake. I te taumata mahi, ka kitea tēnei i roto i ngā whakataunga […]

Te Ōritetanga i roto i te Hononga: Te Tikanga, Ngā Tohu, Me Pēhea te Hanga Pānuihia atu »

Me pēhea te takaro ki tētahi tāne: 25 Ngā Huarahi Māia, Ngāwari ki te Hanga Matū

Ka tino whai hua te takaro ki tētahi tāne ina meinga tō hiahia kia mahana, kia takaro, kia ngāwari hoki te whakautu. Ko ngā tohu kaha rawa atu he māmā noa iho: te titiro kanohi e roa ake ana te wā, he ataata pono, he mihi motuhake, he whakatoi māmā, he pātai pākiki, he reo tinana tuwhera, me ngā karere kuputuhi e āhua whaiaro ana, kaua e akiakihia. Ko te kaupapa matua

Me pēhea te takaro ki tētahi tāne: 25 Ngā Huarahi Māia, Ngāwari ki te Hanga Matū Pānuihia atu »

Me pēhea te hanga i te wahine kia noho haumaru i roto i te hinengaro i a koe e noho tahi ana me koe

Kāore te kukume me te haumaru o te ngākau i te rite. Ka taea e te tangata te rongo i te hononga, engari ka mau tonu te tiaki. Ko te tikanga ka tipu te hononga haumaru mā roto i ngā wā noa: te whakarongo ki a ia ina pouri ia, te whakahaere i te tautohetohe, te whakaute i ngā here, me te rite tonu o ō kupu ki ō mahi. Mō te tini o ngā wāhine, ko ngā āwangawanga matua ko:

Me pēhea te hanga i te wahine kia noho haumaru i roto i ōna kare ā-roto me koe Pānuihia atu »

Te Tapu o te Marena: Te Tikanga, te Hiranga, me te Āhua e Tiakina ai e ngā Tāne me ngā Wahine i ēnei Rā

Ko te tapu o te marena e pā ana ki ngā uara kare ā-roto, matatika, wairua, me te pāpori e hono ana ki te marena hei herenga mō te wa katoa. E whakanui ana i te whakawhirinaki, te pono, te whakaute, te haumaru kare ā-roto, me te kawenga tahi i waenga i ngā hoa. Ahakoa kua whanake haere ngā whanaungatanga hou, he maha tonu ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e titiro ana ki te marena hei herenga tapu i hangaia i runga i te aroha, te herenga, me te tipu tahi. He aha te mea

Te Tapu o te Marena: Te Tikanga, te Hiranga, me te Āhua e Tiakina ai e ngā Tāne me ngā Wahine i ēnei Rā Pānuihia atu »

He aha te haumaru i roto i te whanaungatanga

He aha te Haumarutanga i roto i te Hononga? Te Tikanga, Ngā Tohu, me te Me pēhea te Hanga

Ko te haumaru i roto i te whanaungatanga ko te kare ā-roto o te haumaru, te whakawhirinaki, me te pumau e tuku ana i ngā hoa e rua kia rongo kua whakaaetia, kua tautokona, kua herekore hoki ki te noho ko rātou anō me te kore wehi o te whakahē, te whakakorenga, te whakarērea rānei. Ina pātai koe he aha te haumaru i roto i te whanaungatanga, kei te pātai koe mēnā he haumaru te aroha hei noho i roto i ia rā, i ia rā,

He aha te Haumarutanga i roto i te Hononga? Te Tikanga, Ngā Tohu, me pēhea te Hanga Pānuihia atu »

Kāore he whanaungatanga piripono i roto i te marena mai i te tāne

Kore hononga piripono mai i te tāne i roto i te marena: Ngā take, ngā pānga, me ngā mahi hei mahi

Ka pā mai ngā wā maroke i roto i ngā marena. Engari ki te kore te piripono ā-tinana me te piripono ā-hinengaro mō ngā marama, ko te tikanga he tohu tēnei ki tētahi take hohonu ake e hiahia ana kia kōrero pono, kia arotakehia e te rata, ā, he maha ngā wā ka rongoatia koe. Nō reira, ki te kore koe e whiwhi piripono i roto i te marena mai i te tāne, tukua mātou kia āwhina i a koe kia mārama he aha, me te aha hoki ka taea e koe te mahi mō tēnei.

Kore he whanaungatanga piripono mai i te tāne i roto i te marena: Ngā take, ngā pānga, me ngā mahi hei mahi Pānuihia atu »

He aha te tono maroke: Te tikanga, ngā tauira, te hinengaro, me pēhea te whakautu

Ko te tono maroke he whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ā-kore e whakamahia ana hei whiwhi tautoko, moni, whakamanawa, wā, kaha rānei, me te kore e tono tika. He maha ngā wā ka uru atu ngā tohu, ngā amuamu koretake, ngā kōrero rite ki te mātārae e akiaki ana i te tangata kia whakaaro ki te hiahia, kaua ki te whakarongo ki tētahi tono mārama. Ko te tikanga, he tono e huna ana hei amuamu. I noho te kupu hei

He aha te tono maroke: Te tikanga, ngā tauira, te hinengaro, me pēhea te whakautu Pānuihia atu »

Ngā tohu o te kore o te ngākau nui i roto i te whanaungatanga

Ngā Tohu o te Kore o te Ngākau Aroha i roto i te Hononga: 15 Ngā Tohu Mārama Kaua e Whakakahoretia

Ka taea te mārama ki te ngākau nui hei kawenga hohe i roto i te whanaungatanga. I roto i te hinengaro, e herea ana te ngākau nui ki te hiahia nui me te hihiri kaha. Ka taea tonu e koe te aroha nui ki tētahi engari ka rongo i te mimiti haere o te mura. I roto i te oranga o ia rā, ka puta te ngākau nui hei hiahia, hei hihiri, hei whakapau kaha, hei aroha, hei takaro, hei kaha kare ā-roto. He maha ngā tohu

Ngā Tohu o te Kore o te Hiahia i roto i te Hononga: 15 Ngā Tohu Mārama Kaua e Whakakahoretia Pānuihia atu »

Te Whakahāwea i roto i te Marena: Ngā Tohu, Ngā Take, me te Pehea ki te Whakatika

Ko te whakahawea i roto i te marena ehara i te riri noa iho, i te whakahē rānei; engari he whakaaro rangatira, he whakaatu i te kore whakaute, tae atu ki te whakarihariha kare ā-roto ki tō hoa rangatira. Inaa, kua kitea e ngā kairangahau pēnei i a Tākuta John Gottman ko te whakahawea te tohu kaha rawa atu o te wehenga, nui atu i te kore whakapono, i ngā pakanga moni rānei. Ina whakahawea tetahi hoa ki tetahi.

Te Whakahāwea i roto i te Marena: Ngā Tohu, Ngā Take, me Me Pēhea te Whakatika Pānuihia atu »

Te Tau Tuatahi i Muri i te Ngaronga o te Hoa Rangatira: Ngā Mea hei Tumanako, me pēhea te Whakatutuki

Ko te tau tuatahi i muri i te matenga o te hoa rangatira, he rite tonu ki te mea kei te ohorere, kei te pouri rānei koe, kāore e kaha ki te mahi i ia rā, i ia rā. Engari kaua e tere ki te "whakaora" i te mate, ki te "neke atu rānei", ko tēnei tau he ako ki te noho me te mate i tō ake tere. Whakaarohia tēnei aratohu hei aratohu

Te Tau Tuatahi i Muri i te Ngaronga o te Hoa Rangatira: Ngā Mea hei Tumanako, me pēhea te Whakatutuki Pānuihia atu »