He Pātaitai Whakahīhī taku Tāne

Ko tāu tāne te mea nui hei tautoko i a koe, ā, ko ia hoki te tangata ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki te whai i ōu painga. Heoi, ki te mea he tangata whakahihi tōu i roto i te marena, tera pea ka pāngia koe e te ritenga kē. Kua meinga koe kia whakaaro kei te he koe i ngā mea katoa e hē ana? Kei te ahua tonu kei te whiwhi tō tāne i tana e pai ai? Mena he āe te whakautu ki tētahi o ēnei pātai, māu tēnei pātaitai.

I hangaia e Dhriti Bhavsar, he tohunga hinengaro mātau me te tohu paerua i roto i te hinengaro me te tohungatanga ki te tohutohu, ka taea e tēnei pātaitai te āwhina i a koe ki te mārama mēnā kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga me tētahi tangata whakahihi. He mate tuakiri te whakahihi, ehara i te mea he āhuatanga kino noa iho. Kua hangaia tēnei pātaitai kia āwhina i a koe ki te mārama mēnā he tangata whakahihi tō hoa, he tangata hiahia noa iho rānei, nā te mea he rerekē rawa ngā mea e rua.

He mea nui kia mōhio koe he mate hinengaro uaua te Mate Whaiaro Whakahē, ā, ehara tēnei pātaitai i te whakakapi mō te tātaritanga ngaio. Engari, whakaarohia tēnei pātaitai hei taputapu hei āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ake ki ngā take o tō whanaungatanga. Mena ka puta he āwangawanga mai i ngā hua, rapua te arataki a tētahi tohunga hauora hinengaro mō tētahi aromatawai whānui. Ka taea e te noho tahi me tētahi tangata whakahē te whakararuraru nui i tō oranga hinengaro, nō reira he mea nui kia kaua koe e noho ko koe anake.

Whakaotia te pātai 'He tangata whakahihi taku tāne', ā, whakautua ngā pātai me te pono. Ko te tautuhi i te raruraru te taahiraa tuatahi ki te whakaoti rapanga!

Te pānui e pā ana: Whakamātautau Mate Tūāhua Whakahē

Te pānui e pā ana: Pātaitai Kei te Whakararurarutia Ahau

Q1. Kāore ia e whakaae ana ki ana hapa, engari ka ngana ki te whakama i a koe mō tāu urupare

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q2. Ka whakakahoretia e ia tō wheako o te kaupapa, ā, ka meinga koe kia ruarua i ō ake mahara/ngā kare ā-roto (Gaslighting)

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q3. Ka takaro tonu ia i te patunga i roto i tētahi āhuatanga, ā, ka meinga koe, ētahi atu rānei hei tangata hara.

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q4. Ki te whakahē koe i a ia mō tētahi mea, ka tīmata ia ki te whakaeke i a koe hei whakautu

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q5. Kāore he aha ki a ia te whara i ētahi atu kia whiwhi ai i tāna e hiahia ai, ā, kāore ia e whakama ki te whakamahi i ētahi atu

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q6. E whakaatu ana ia me te mea he pai ake ia i te katoa, engari he pakarukaru tōna whakapehapeha/whakaaro nui ki a ia anō

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q7. He nui tōna hiahia ki tōna ahua i roto i te hapori, ā, e kore rawa ia e whakaae ki ana hapa i mua i te aroaro o te tangata.

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q8. Kei te mataku koe ki te whakaara ake i ētahi kaupapa mōna, ā, kei te whakaaro koe me takahi tonu koe i runga i ngā anga hua manu i a koe e tūtaki ana ki a ia.

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q9. Ko tana tikanga he whakahaere i ngā horopaki/kōrero, ā, e hiahia ana ia kia haere ngā mea i tana e pai ai.

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q10. Ka kōrero whakaiti, ka whakahē hoki ia i a koe, ā, ka whakaiti tonu i a koe. 

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q11. Ka taea e ia te tino ataahua ina hiahia ia, inā koa i te aroaro o ētahi atu tāngata. 

1. He maha nga wa
2. He rarerau
3. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q12. He maha āna kupu whakaari, engari he onge te auau o āna mahi ki te whakatutuki i ana kupu. 

4. He maha nga wa
5. He rarerau
6. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q13. He tino whakataetae ia, ā, he hae hoki ki a koe me ētahi atu

7. He maha nga wa
8. He rarerau
9. Ehara i te mea katoa

Q14. Ahakoa ngā hapa o tō kōrua whanaungatanga, ka mataku ia mēnā ka kī koe kia wehe. 

10. He maha nga wa
11. He rarerau
12. Ehara i te mea katoa

Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

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